#autiaromantic

Autiaro or Autiaromantic is a romantic identity on the aromantic spectrum in which one's autism greatly affects one's romantic orientation/lack of romantic attraction. Autiaro is not autism as an orientation, but rather an aromantic identity that is so heavily affected by or influenced by one's autism, that one's aromanticism and one experience of having autism cannot be unlinked from each other.

Not all autistic aromantic people identify as autiaro, only those who feel their aromanticism is influenced by them being autistic. Autiaro is an exclusive identity to those who are on the autism spectrum. Although, any autistic person on the aromantic spectrum (ex. aroflux , demiromantic , cupioromantic , etc) may identify with autiaro.

The asexual counterpart is autiace.

Not all autistic aromantic individuals identify as autiaro. Only those who feel their aromanticism is influenced by them being autistic. Autiaro is an exclusive identity for those who are on both the autistic and aromantic spectrums.

The asexual counterpart is autiace."

I wish there was a special someone in my life and he would be direct and say "I have sexual and relationship intentions towards you." He would probably have to say it a second time because my brain cannot process social interactions that happen out of nowhere.

Looking back, the intense social interaction of someone asking me out is something that is overwhelming to me. One time I had a guy I was attracted to flirting with me, but it was unexpected and therefore socially overwhelming, and I immediately zoomed out of the restaurant when I had a chance. When I got home, I hated myself.

I can't imagine being comfortable with someone where I am comfortable doing it myself. I don't talk much when I'm with people, and people do not have patience for that. That's the reason why I can't join an organization.

First of all, it sucks that when I say "social disability" I have to clarify that I don't mean a government program. A major reason why I spent most of my life not knowing I was AuDHDistic was because for me it is a social disability, not a learning disability. I don't have anxiety like most people, I'm a woman with AuDHD who was born deaf and I was about 1 or 2 when it was fixed, so it's probably why all my life I never had the brain wiring to initiate and maintain a conversation. The reason I'm able to work in retail is because Q&A conversations are not hard for me.

I was a girl born in 1986, so the possibility of autism or inattentive ADHD never came up despite spending most of my childhood seeing a therapist. Back then, you had to check off all the boxes for a diagnosis.

There needs to be representation of people who are not the romantic type but still want to have a relationship for the intimacy.

There needs to be representation of people who wanted a relationship, but it wasn't meant to be AND they are not a villain. Too many people see being a single adult as a sign that they are a bad person. That ignores the reality that so many bad people do have intimate relationships, because it's actually about social ability and social opportunity, not morality.

In the autistic community, there are so many people who say "Being a person with autism wasn't a barrier to me." Good for you, not everyone with autism has that experience.

When people think of "lonely adult" they think of an incel or a woman who is single all the time but is somehow still able to have sex. Being a woman does not mean you have easy access to sex. Even if I did miraculously have the ability to maintain a conversation, I would still have to think about safety.