#askheartbreak

I know that it can be hard sometimes, but don’t lose hope!  I’m not a huge fan of the idea that we all have that one special person, somewhere, out there waiting for us and we just have to find them and we’ll live happily ever after (!!) BUT I believe that there are people out there who we are willing to make compromises for and who are willing to make compromises for us in return.  The guys who have left you in the past clearly were not willing to make compromises for you, and frankly are not worth you time.  You deserve to feel loved and wanted, and I truly believe that you WILL someday.  

Have you ever seen the show How I Met Your Mother?  Because I really like the idea that every wrong person ultimately leads you to the right person.  Think of those past guys as trial runs.  If you think about, you’ve probably learned a lot about yourself and what you want in a relationship. 

I’ve heard of people who make a dream board, but for the kind of person they want to be with.  It doesn’t have to be an actual board. Maybe just write on a piece of paper.  Think of 2-3 main things that you want in a partner, that you’re not wiling to compromise on. And then you can list a few other secondary traits. Having a clear vision of what you want can help you stay away from guys that are completely wrong for you. Just don’t be too picky!  Focus on a few things that are most important to you. 

Most importantly, take some time to be single.  Go out with friends. Maybe try some new hobbies (cooking, sports, painting, etc…). Try to become less fixated on finding a partner and enjoy your life as it is. Who knows, maybe meeting others with similar interests will end up leading you to someone who will stick around.