In just keep stumbling forward where all of their parents immediately accepting of them being in a poly relationship?
No, they were not all immediately accepting.Pattonās Moms
Patton was out to them as poly before dating Logan, Virgil, and Roman
When he came out, his moms were immediately accepting
They knew what polyamorous was and understood it
They did want to make sure that Patton knew what it was and truly identified that way instead of using it as an excuse to cheat on his partners
When he had clarified, that he was poly, actually poly, and did know what that meant, they were extremely supportive and accepting
It also helped that they had gone through a similar process with his older sister when she first brought home her two boyfriendsĀ
(the relationship didnāt last but it was exposure to the concept)
Romanās Dads
Roman introduced the idea of him being poly to his dads by pretty much sayingĀ āHey Dads, I have three boyfriends here are their names and a little bit about each oneā
That was it that was the conversation
Once the shock ofĀ āhey our son just called, told us a bit about how his life was going, said he appreciated the cookies last week, and oh just told us he was dating three people all at onceā wore off, they immediately called back
His Dadās jumped to the conclusion that he was cheating and were Very Upset because
1) āwe raised you a better person than thatā and
2) cheating on partners is haram (forbidden by Islamic law)
Roman explained that no, he wasnāt cheating and that they were all dating each other and it was completely consensual
Dads were confused for a while and stumbled over how to refer to his boyfriends for a long time
āEr, your,, close friends??āĀ āBoyfriends, Dads.ā
Part of this continued confusion was due to the fact that Roman didnāt ever really explain it to them
It was actually Patton who explained to Romanās dads over the phone what polyamory was and what it meant
That was when everything clicked
They were likeĀ āoh, so Roman has three boyfriends and all of you are dating each other in one singular, healthy, consensual relationship, thatās a bit new to us, but makes senseā
Patton was likeĀ āyes, that exactlyā while Roman was likeĀ āthat is literally what Iāve been saying the entire timeā
Pattonās likeĀ āRo, honey, you didnāt explain shitā
(he really didnāt explain it at all)
Romanās parents immediately fall in love with the 1st of 3 boyfriends
They later made sure to send Roman cute parent texts expressing their support and desire to meet his boyfriends if their relationship ever became that serious
Virgilās Dad
Virgilās Dad is like the ultra ally parent
The truth is- thereās not much things that can phase a man who had his son kidnapped by an evil cult only to find and have that child returned to him years later
(and turns out he has a shit ton of trauma and then that kidās mom left and the kid attempted suicide and started getting into fights)
and well, letās just say heās learned to just sort of roll with life
The best part of all this- it was actually Virgilās father who first introduced Virgil to the term polyamorous years ago
When Virgil came out as queer he pretty much said he wasnāt straight but didnāt know what he was
His father did a ton of research to try and help and found a long list of terms, including polyamorous
Virgil ended up identifying as queer/not straight instead of anything more specific, but this was both of there introduction to the identity
In result, when Virgil explained that he was dating Logan, Patton, and Roman, he was very supportive
āDamn it, I got it wrong.āĀ āWhat the fuck? Dad what are talking about.āĀ āI thought you were going to date Roman. Not Patton, Logan, and Roman. Guess Iāll just have to deal with getting one of three.āĀ āYour so weird Dad.āĀ āLove you too kiddo.ā
Loganās Parents
Loganās parents werenāt very accepting when he first came out as gay
It was actually a mixture of homophobia and ableism
In their minds, Logan didnāt have the ability to be gay because he was autistic
They later change their minds after Logan compiled a shit ton of research and created numerous well-crafted arguments
At the same time, to themĀ āchanging their mindsā is moreĀ āWell I guess my son says heās gay so,, guess Iāll accept that even though I donāt think he can be.ā
Being polyamorous (and bi) went a similar way
Logan actually dated someone else before Roman and Virgil but at the same time as Patton
He tried mentioning this to his family, but because he was dating a girl as well as a boy, Patton got brushed off as aĀ āgood friendā
After Logan and the girl broke up, Patton got bumped up toĀ āboyfriendā in their minds
When Logan started dating Patton, Virgil, and Roman he decided not to tell his parents at first because of this
When he did tell them, it went pretty similar as last time, with Patton being seen as his boyfriend and Virgil and Roman beingĀ āclose friendsā
When they get engaged his parents just sorta,, ignore the fact that itās four of them in a relationship
After Exothermic, things start to change a bit more
His parents start to refer to all of his spouses as hisĀ āpartnersā but specifically avoid using any terms likeĀ āspousesā bc it makes them uncomfortable and they only half try to understand
Neither Logan nor his spouses mind the termĀ āpartnerā but the reason Loganās parents use it does bug them
Itās pretty much just permanently uneasy in that way
Virgil, Patton, and Roman due there best to support Logan as he navigates this area with his parents, and only step in if itās unhealthy for Logan or anyone else in the relationship














