Can you give us the context of what your response to the anon talking about the servers was about, because I think I'm aware of half the story and had no idea that there was a backstop to the "vent" the server person posted the other day...
Sure. Absolutely. I wasn't going to post about this publicly, but since I've been informed (and sent screenshots) that there have been misrepresentations of events in servers I'm not in and continued defending of the behavior in question/continued expressions of the belief that I'm just of inferior intellect to the white person involved; yeah, I'll make it public. Why not?
I'd like to drop a quote here that resonates with me about these happenings, that I hope you can all appreciate after reading the below explanation —
No need to hear your voice when I can talk about you better than you can speak about yourself. No need to hear your voice. Only tell me about your pain. I want to know your story. And then I will tell it back to you in a new way. Tell it back to you in such a way that it has become mine, my own. Re-writing you I write myself anew. I am still author, authority. I am still colonizer the speaking subject and you are now at the center of my talk. -Yearning: Race, Gender, and Cultural Politics (1990); bell hooks
So we're absolutely clear, this all stems from a brief exchange I had with salixsociety in a discord server we were both in at the time (salixsoicety has since left the server). Since it stems from that exchange, I had no intention of taking the matter outside of the server, as I considered it over with when salixsociety abruptly ended communication and left the server; however, I now see no point in keeping things to myself since I've been informed of the lies and accusations salixsociety went on to immediately make in their own server (leaving out that they were talking about an interaction with POC and instead vaguely bemoaning how unfair and difficult it is to exist "in the pursuit of liberation" as a white person; as well as making claims of having experienced "casual racism" and painting POC as intellectually less than "despite" their "attempts to meet them where they're at.").
Here's what really happened and what the people in their server were lied to about:
On May 12th, 2026, I had responded to a post in a server that salixsociety had shared on April 28th, 2026, in which they posted a link to an essay they'd written on tumblr and opened the floor for discussion.
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Username "Idis" (salixsociety): I'm trying to force myself to rebuild a social life so I'll throw my post in a few of the servers I'm in for the sake of opening it to discussion! This is only one part in a series but I'm enjoying writing it so far. (Followed by a link to a post on salixsociety's tumblr titled 'Ethnic Envy: Chapter 1 in a series on Appropriation and Ethnocide in the Witchcraft Community'.]
I took the time to read the post, albeit late as I hadn't the time to do so sooner, and, like many other users in the server, replied with my thoughts.
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Username "Keziah" (me): So, I finally got the chance to sit down and read this, and, while I can appreciate what I can tell your aims are with this, I (as a reader who isn't white) feel that you should know that there are repeated uses of terms and phrases that are not helpful and can actually be harmful (and in fact uphold white supremacy and cultural essentialism). Things like referring to people (and it seems typically in your piece you're referring to non-white people and cultures when saying these things) as "ethnic" and "exotic" (at one point referring to people as "racial") are issues that POC have been talking about and writing about for years now. These terms are offensive and contribute to the white supremacist beliefs that white is the default setting and anything outside of white is a separate "other."
There are plenty of articles written by POC explaining why people shouldn't be using these terms. I can drop some links if you'd like.
I just feel that since you're planning on making that a theme for a series of posts, you should know going forward how those terms can impact readers who are not white. Because it is not having the same impact as other readers (and might actually detract from your intentions).]
Salixsociety then replied with a lengthy response dismissing my perspective, calling my opinion as a POC "misguided," and going on to explain racism and how to correctly dismantle racist systems to me.
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Idis/salixsociety: I appreciate your effort and your reading, so thank you for that and your desire to educate people. I respect that a lot. But I think it is a little misguided in this instance. The writing in question here is deeply polemic of institutionalized racism and white supremacy (as well as cultural essentialism and imperialism, etc), and it uses these terms ("racial," "ethnic," "exotic," etc) in the context of criticism. It is very true that these words contribute to the problem, which is exactly why using them and exposing people to the harm that is contained in those concepts is so important. When you go to criticize systems and institutions, especially those that make up people's lived reality in the form of biases and thought patterns, you are forced to engage with the terminologies and categories of those structues. I'm not using them because I believe in them, I'm using them because I'm criticizing them, and because in order to criticize them and the broader patterns they reveal I'm forced to use the. It may not be digestible, and it is indeed offensive to be confronted by, but that doesn't mean it's pointless nor racist. We live in a SoCiEtY (sorry I really can't take myself saying that word seriously) where whether we like it or not, race, ethnicity, and exoticism are still prevalent concepts. They still exist, so we have to use those words to describe those structures and dismantle them. It's unpleasant, I agree, but it is necessary, and it's not nessarily an indication of perpetuation of the problem. Extremely pivotal authors to the liberation movement (like bell hooks herself, who I quoted in the essay) have and still do use these words for the same reasons. No, people shouldn't be using those words seriously, but my use of them is not sincere or literal Trying to write an article criticizing exoticization and ethicization without using those words would be like trying to fight racism without saying the word "race" or "black." Of course in an ideal world there would be no "races" and people wouldn't able to be reduced to "black" or "brown," but we don't live in that world, and until then we have to use the words to describe the problems at hand and aim to dismantle them.]
Now, there is a lot to be said for how this response was handled. I will keep it short and say simply that I do find it offensive that the first POC to reply to the essay brought forward for discussion was called "misguided" and was talked to as if they were simply too stupid to have understood the writer's post (I'm not. I did understand the post. And I understand the terms were used repeatedly not in the context of quotations, and have been used in other posts by this writer outside of that context of "dismantling" and "critiquing" such systems. I also know that salixsociety continued to imply that I am simply not smart enough to understand anything in their server and that I lacked understanding "despite" their "best attempt to meet them (meaning me) where they're at."). The response from salixsociety was disingenuous and dishonest, as it does not acknowledge or refer to the repeated use of those terms on their blog outside of the context of this essay.
There is also a lot to be said about a white person taking it upon themselves to explain to someone that isn't white what terms "we" "have" to use and how we "have" to criticize and engage with white supremacy, racism, et al. Explaining to me how to interact with the systems of oppression I have experienced every single day of my life. Chat, is that the pursuing of liberation? Or is that talking over the lived experiences of POC for the sake of feeling like the most enlightened person in the room?
Back to the exchange:
I went on to point out that while salixsociety used bell hooks and the context of the specific essay in question to defend their use of those terms, that those terms could be found in several other posts on their blog outside of the context of the essay, outside of the context of quoting bell hooks or other writers. I addressed that bell hooks' use of such terminology does not inherently defend continuing to use that terminology in 2026 (i.e. the most prominent essay of hooks' using that terminology — Black Looks: Race and Representation — was written in 1992; and the work salixsociety quotes in their essay — Eating the Other — was also published in 1992). Terminology that may have been more accepted in 1992 isn't always going to hold up in 2026, as in the case of the use of terms such as exotic and ethnic. Furthermore, it's well known that hooks herself eventually ceased writing using those terms, so using hooks' use of them (in 1992) to defend using them in 2026 does not hold up.
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Keziah: The thing is, you've used those terms on your blog outside of that post and context as well, so I'm operating under the assumption from your posts that these are part of your vocabulary such as in your recent post about hijabs.
Furthermore, your terminology aside, the essay in question further centralizes the white experience and in turn erases that there are witches and pagans who are simply not white. While I understand your intentions with the post, my perspective in reading it as person who is not white does not equal my failing to understand what you were trying to do. I do not need that explained to me. It does however offer insight into the lived [experience] of people who are not white who may read the post. Quite simply, the way you present your stance seems to be counterproductive to what you're intended to come across as, and actually is more harmful than it is helpful.
Keziah: I will also point out that bell hooks was using white people's language to speak to white people. And just because one person of color is okay with terms, that doesn't mean we all are or even that the general consensus agrees, or that, in 2026, that terminology is still considered "okay." I'm not "misguided" in my opinion, and, to be perfectly honest, that reaction and the fact that you felt the need to explain something to me that I understood perfectly but simply did not receive the way you wanted me to, is a whole other issue entirely.]
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Idis: This entire argument makes absolutely no sense and completely dismisses my own, but there is nowhere for my to go from here and I'm really not interested in trying to justify myself in an environment like this, so I will be taking my leave.
Keziah: My lived experience as someone who isn't white is not an "argument" and you are diminishing that.]
This, readers, is the entirety of my exchange with salixsociety. Now, those of you who are in the Otherworld discord server might be confused. Where are the accusations of racism lobbed against salixsociety that they mentioned in their server? There were none. Where was the "attack" they accused me of? There wasn't one. Where is the part where salixsociety was "accused of shit implicitly?" They weren't. Where did anyone "ask questions in bad faith?" No one did. Where did anyone "attack their character?" No one did. That didn't happen. And what about "piling criticisms that didn't have anything to do with my work?" Well, the replies are all there in the pathandpractice server. Anyone can see that no one said anything about or to salixsociety that wasn't related specifically to the essay they posted and opened up for discussion. No one said anything racist to salixsociety, who, as far as I know, has only ever publicly identified as being Dutch.
Furthermore, while I don't currently have the time to go seek permission from everyone that replied with their own take on the essay in question, I will share some examples of the tone of the responses to this particular situation, responses which salixsociety went to misrepresent as a "dogpile" and "attack."
As you'll see below, one user (who has given me to permission to share their response) who has professional and academic experience and credentials in the field of DEI responded in support of my suggestions. This user's professional background is literally creating curriculum and training for educators and school staff involved in DEI programs. *Note: the post was edited for a grammar error.
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Username redacted for privacy: I have to agree with Keziah's sentiment here. Not as an admin, but as a person with a Black father and as someone with a background as a Diversity and Inclusion Consultant in the education field, these are terms that should be avoided in any context, but especially in diversity and equity efforts.]
Other replies simply stated that while users supported salixsociety's intentions with their essay, they did agree that we should defer to BIPOC when it comes to such terminology and whether or not it is deemed offensive to BIPOC. No one treated salixsociety with disrespect, no one spoke about their character, no one accused them of anything; and the entire thread is still available to view on the server, including the aftermath, where many users did express their disappointment with salixsociety's response and treatment of my concerns.
After salixsociety left the server, they went on to post in their own (significantly larger) server (where they have a broad reach) a deliberately vague, revisionist interpretation of events.
Below you'll find one of the screenshots from the Otherworld server sent to me. I've been sent several, just so we're clear.
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Idis: sorry this is a vent, not really a prompt or anything, so I'm putting it here and spoilering it because I don't want to sound entitled but it is so fucking exhausting to publicly talk about institutionalized racism. I don't want to go on about it too much because it's a million thousand times worse for people of color who are doing it but it is genuinely so soul-crushingly exhausting to have to be accused of shit implicitly, or shunned or questioned in bad faith literally at every turn because people don't understand it and assume that that must mean I'm racist for some goddamn reason. it's so exhausting to fight for my rights and other people's rights and have my motives questioned, and I feel very privileged to be able to do it at all, but sometimes it gets so emotionally destructive to have to answer these accusations and bad faith questions and shit"um the word "exotic" actually has a very racist history" yes. i know. that's. literally what i'm talking about. and i feel like i couldn't have stated that much more literally despite my best attempts to meet you where you're atHUUuUUUUUUUUUUU "wHy Is FiGhTInG FoR LiBERrAtIoN So HAaAAAaRRDDdDD WAAAAHHHH" literally what i sound like sorry]
As you can see for yourselves, it was never mentioned that salixsociety was talking about a brief conversation with a POC. Users in the Otherworld server had no way of knowing that salixsociety was vague posting and lying about POC and was actually coming into the server straight off of having dismissed and disrespected a person of color.
Salixsociety and co. have since gone on to post on their blogs lamenting "the rejection of academic language," and salixsociety, in doing so, continues to imply that those who do not use what they deem "academic" and "formal" language are simply "not as literate" and are holding the world back from organizing in pursuit of liberation.
I want to stress that I was not initially upset with salixsociety for potentially not having known better than to use those terms. It's the response to events that has been deeply offensive — the lying, the deliberate neglect to tell the whole story to their server, and the continued reiteration that salixsociety is simply more intelligent than the POC involved (now joined by the vague implication that people not using those terms are "not as literate").
As I opened this response with a poignant quote, I'd like to finish with another, for it feels deeply relevant to this matter —
"Assimilation [...] is a strategy deeply rooted in the ideology of white supremacy [...]” It urges “black people to negate blackness, to imitate racist white people so as to better absorb their values, their way of life. [...] This is especially true of social policy that has encouraged and promoted racial integration. [That] racial integration translated into assimilation ultimately serves to reinforce and maintain white supremacy." -bell hooks being paraphrased in IMMORTALIZING THE SPIRIT OF THE COLONIZER (2012); Maximiliano Lombardi