honestly a lot of those "protective partner" tropes/prompts/imagines just feel abusive and controlling to me. like the idea that another person is gonna TELL YOU what you're allowed to do and who you're allowed to see because they "know better" and get angry if you disobey them?? and they have anger issues and get pissed at your family or even YOU. like I know it's mostly for people in abusive situations or for people who haven't really been protected irl before but it feels so gross and uncomfortable. like even "I'm not ever gonna let anyone hurt you again" or making it seem like they're the ONLY trustworthy person. you should want to build a strong support system!!!!

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Clearly, there are many factors that lead people to emphasize certain life goals that may not be need fulfilling. For example, exposure to the commercial media can prompt a locus on materialism (Richins, 1987), which provides only fleeting satisfactions and could actually de- tract from basic need fulfillment and, thus, well-being. Prior deficits in need fulfillment (e.g., from poor caregiv- ing) might also lead individuals to yearn for more extrinsic goals as a substitute or compensatory mechanism. In fact, T. Kasser, Ryan, Zax, and Sameroff (1995) found that teens who had been exposed to cold, controlling maternal care (as assessed with ratings by the teens, mothers, and observ- ers) were more likely to develop materialistic orientations, compared with better nurtured teens who more strongly valued the intrinsic goals of personal growth, relationships, and community. In short, cultural and developmental in- fluences produce variations in the importance of goals, the pursuit of which, in turn, yields different satisfaction of basic needs and different levels of well-being.