I think what feels anachronistic about women complaining about arranged marriages/the plight of women in historical fiction isn't that they do it at all, because if teenagers love doing anything it's complaining about the status quo and that is eternal, but the fact that no one pushes back.
Because I think we all remember being told as kids, "That's just the way it is" in various forms. We've all experienced the older generation defending The Way Things Are even if they were harmed by it and are passing on harm. For every woman complaining about being forced into spitting out heirs, there should be an older woman telling her that The Divine (of whatever flavour) placed her on earth for that purpose. This is her DutyTM. This is how women contribute to the world by raising the next generation. That it is special and sacred. Because we as humans need to contextualize our lives and our pain and make it meaningful. And because as much as they might have suffered under it, it was women who helped perpetuate the very systems that oppressed them. Women arranged political and self-serving marriages for their daughters. Women broke their own daughter's feet to bind them.
For every historical fiction woman complaining about their lot in life, there should be at least one singing it's praises, even against her own interests.
