#allergymcm

My #allergyMCM is the funny @motokimaxted his energy is seriously contagious. Depending on your limitation, depending on how isolated you are in the world, Depending on how your allergy/sensitivity impact you daily. There isn't much room for emotional regulation. In all seriousness, I know we are all doing our best in this world, no matter if we have allergies we all have struggles. But that being said, if you have allergies/sensitivity on top of our struggles the expectation for someone to hold it together all the time, to change, to not do this or that is seriously unrealistic. We as human only have a capacity of dealing with so much and with additional health issues, our capacity doesn't increase it just gets pulled from other areas of our lives. So some areas will lack any control. For me it's my emotions, I cannot keep them in, or control them. But I know I am clear on why I reacted that way to someone who is with me. It's not you, my self-control is done today. I have eaten the same foods for the last 6 months, I cannot really go outside without fearing pain, and I am dealing with nerve pains. I am seriously confused where you think, the self-control for my emotions will come from. So if everyone is doing their best be compassionate to yourself and know even if you cannot control your emotions. You can be transparent and apologetic on where that emotion came from and that it's not because of them. Anyone who expects more of you and cannot do more to understand without an allergy is being very unrealistic. My self-control is just as much as yours I just need to use it in other areas of my life to survive. #MCM #allergy #foodallergy #nickelallergy #multiplechemicalsensitivity #MCS #life

My #allergyMCM is @jaypfilm who is the most loving and compassionate man to his wife @jamieandniks. So yeah physical affection is seen as a sign of love. From a handshake to a hug, to a kiss on the cheek you name it. But for people with #multiplechemicalsensitivities or #airborneallergies this can send us to hell. A couple months ago I had to remove physical touch from my social interactions due to being allergic to smoke molecules that get attached to clothes. You don't have to be a smoker for me to react to you. You can hug a smoker, be around smokers when they smoke. Most people who want to be around me need to come showered, let's just say if you've been out and you need to stop by you need to go home and shower before coming to see me. In all with allergies and sensitivities, no touching without a shower is a sign of affection. #allergy #mcs

My #allergyMCM is @awakenwithjp in love with his sarcasm and just his oxymoron message which gets the point across. Shirt says: "Spiritual as hell" 😂 So I should never be the one to say this but in my few interactions with people who like me or I like them or both. My food allergy has always been a problem, like actually. 😒 It is very hard for people to ever think of a relationship without the consistent "let's get dinner" rituals. Ummm sir no thank you. I even had someone ask me, "what bout the guy you date." Like the guy would suffer cause I cannot eat out. In all seriousness, tolerating people's food allergy isn't the same as being comfortable around them. I don't care if you talk about food, and I don't want to be kept reminded that I cannot eat out.... umm food abuse much... 👀 and I don't want to hear how you would love me to try something you love to eat. It's never gonna happen so let's move on. I wonder if its just really hard to think of things outside eating out when you are starting to get to know people in a relationship. But yeah I am not an expert I don't really date so I don't know if this is accurate but just my observations when people who like me find out about food allergy. #foodallergy #nickelallergy #nickelychallenged #allergystrugglebus #MCM

My #MCM is @jaackmaate love his personality. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ May is #foodallergyawarenessmonth which is definitely relevant to everyone not just people with food allergies. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Had bit of an annoying week last week was too sick to cook, survived in ice cream, eggs, bacon, Rice Chex cereal, Apples and oranges. But it was scary to say the least. It got me wondering what if I get too sick to cook for myself, or even go to the hospital. I am anaphylactic towards foods cooked in stainless steel or foods that touched metal that has nickel, high nickel foods, or just more than those 9 foods I can eat, tap water and metal utensils. And no one knows how to cook for me. So as I am writing my will. Jk but in all seriousness how will I survive. Mer! 😒 one person put it in prospective safety trumps emotions. And I haven't been feeling safe lately. #foodallergy #allergymcm #nickelallergy #invisibleillness

My #MCM is @alrighthey his energy is definitely contagious. So when it comes to allergies honesty is key. I have had so many circumstances that I am seriously so distort on what is happening to my body. Later to find out that someone put something I was allergic to and didn't want to tell me because they were scared and it was too much work to cook the meal over again. 😒 Like you cannot be serious. 😒Or my favorite "I am not gonna tell you when I "insert allergen" every time. Umm actually you do, it's in some secret code of actually actively caring about someone. Airborne allergies suck. But having honest people helps the most. I am not always on alert and if I can keep my guard down with you then you are definitely helping me be less anxious. But in all unfortunately to say alienating yourself might be another step because I have learned people will do whatever they want despite you going to the hospital. #allergyMCM #allergies #chronicfatigue #nervepains #airborneallergy #cigaretteallergy #smokingallergy #nickelallergy #nickelychallenged #foreveraloner

My #MCM is @inkquisitive For the love of Sikh men. 😍 ⚫️ Lets do an exercise before you read any farther: be mindful that the story you'll hear is different from your situation, don't judge it, nor pity it, not come to any solutions or conclusions. Accept it. And try to see the beauty in it. ⚫️ We have never been taught to sit in pain. We need alleviate it but what if we cannot. what if accepting the pain is all you can do. As you all know, I discovered I have nerve pains. My nerve pains are caused by being around people who smoke anything. I have been to the hospital twice, 1 night in inpatient cause the pain was unbearable and I took too many pain killers they would have kept me longer but what would I eat, 1 nickel poisoning by a doctor giving me water that touched metal. My throat almost close up but was to scared to go back to the hospital. All misdiagnosis. I have moved 3 times because of my allergies, lost a job cause I lived with someone who valued smoking than their own family. Lost 2 places to live, gladly I had friends and family to live with. Lost a lot of job opportunities. I have had to cheat on my allergy diet cause I couldn't afford what I wasn't allergic too. Lost friends, lost energy, and lost a trust in myself and people. But in all, I have friends who have learned I need to be a control freak and missed texts, spontaneity, no communication is harder for me than most. And just giving me that certainty in life is more than I can ask for. I am now in a smoke free housing working a full time job, and blogging. I know nothing is certain and tomorrow someone can move in who smokes and I might not survive it. But if that happens that says more about them than me. #allergyMCM #allergy #invisibleillness #airborneallergy #cigaretteallergy #smokingallergy #nickelallergy #nickelychallenged