#alexredgrave

commission by @okayolek

[ common fandom complaint that you’re sick of hearing ]

You didn't pick a fandom so I've decided that the perfectly hinged option is to talk about fandoms in general; so here goes.

I'm deeply tired of complaints about abundances. "Why is there so much of ship X", "Why are there so many fics about Y"... And I get the frustration, I really do - it's so often I wish some concept that looks so interesting in my head was more explored, instead of everyone just repeating the popular fanon. But!

This specific way of complaining about it is just... THE most counterproductive. Because there's an obvious answer to that "why?" and it's "because people find it interesting". And saying that something a person is interested in is bad and annoying is, unsurprisingly, NOT going to make them abandon something they like and switch to whatever the complainer wants to see. At best, they'll just think the complainer is kind of an ass and keep on doing whatever they were doing; at worst, it can over time chip at their willingness to engage with that particular fandom at all. And then there's just less fancontent overall, and still no things the complainer wanted in the first place.

(As an aside, there's a similar phenomenon I see when people engage with queer media, where basically a silly indie game with queer rep will be picked the fuck apart for what it does not have, instead of, you know, being celebrated for what it did portray well. Because tearing into every queer game that comes out absolutely does not lead to more queer games with other types of rep! It's ridiculous that ppl do not seem to see that!)

And the thing is, it's very easy to take the sentiment behind such complaint, and then do positive things with it - things which, I dare say, will benefit the fandom as a whole. And it all starts with rewording that complaint. Instead of saying "there's too much of concept A", say "I would love to see concept B explored", or, "I love it when people explore concept B". Someone who had not thought of B before might consider it and become interested. Someone who thought of it but was worried it wouldn't be well-received will feel validated. Someone who did explore it will be happy - and might even pop into comments with a rec! Seriously: just channeling that frustration into a call for more content, instead of saying there's too much content, makes it more pleasant to see and more likely to actually net the reaction the complainer wants.

(It's like... reverse 'two cakes' almost. Instead of complaining you hate chocolate cake, say you wish there was a vanilla one too. Maybe someone who was afraid their vanilla cake wouldn't be well received will be running to you with it.)

After that, there's of course the option of uplifting the fanworks that do [whatever it is] right - hyping them up, spreading the word, writing the author a long-ass comment. And one can always cook their own meals too! Yes, even if one isn't a creative; sometimes a screenshot of canon material with a short comment is all it takes to make the gears in someone else's head turn. (Spoken as someone who definitely did get ideas from exactly such posts.)

Oh damn, okay!

5)  are they religious or spiritual in any way?

Not religious, no. Being born in Heywood, there was obviously always the Valentino presence and the religion backing them, but his family did not particularly push it. With the way things are, Vince falls in the agnostic range. He won’t flat out tell you there’s no God, but he sure isn’t seeing any good proof. 

Spiritual, in a way. He likes to try to throw what good he can out into the world because, why not? At best, he’ll have some good karma come back his way. At worst, well, he wasn’t a total asshole  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  He also takes to Misty when he journeys back to NC, likes getting his tarot read and hearing her opinions on the world. Once he’s with Kerry, he also likes to be filled in on the advice Kerry’s guru has for him. Most of it isn’t bad. 

22)  do they like to cook for themselves, or eat out? do they prefer restaurants or street food? and how do they feel about vending machine food?

My boy’s a nomad, so he knows how to cook for himself with whatever he has lying around. Will it be good? Eh, sometimes. Will it be Not Bad? Most of the time. He enjoys cooking when he can, and it’s something he misses when he’s back in NC with no kitchen. I like to think he and Mama Welles cook together occasionally :)

Street food has more of the vibe he’s used to with Nomad food, but Jackie and Kerry get him into diner food as well. It’s a special occasion kind of thing, though. 

He hates vending machine food but, beggars can’t be choosers. Any chance he has to avoid it, he does. But he definitely puts the burrito vending machine in his apartment to use a few times (grumbling and upset as he does). 

5. what is your favorite overused trope?

John and Arthur 

How did they they meet?

When Dutch brought John back to camp after saving him

Who developed romantic feelings first?

I’m going to say Arthur. It was after Mary broke his heart and John was there helping to understand what he was feeling

Who is their biggest “shipper?”Hosea

When did they have their first kiss and under what circumstances?It was after a job went sideways, and they were hiding. And poor John was freaking out, he was still sort of new and young at this. So Arthur kissed him. And they never looked back. 

Who confessed their feelings first?A drunk John 

What was their first official date?A poker game in some big town. They won

How do they feel about double dates/group dates?They like doing there own thing 

What do they do in their down time?Arthur draws, and read, and John tends to try and be a good dad to Jack with Arthur help 

What was the first meeting of parents as an official couple like?Dutch was not shocked and Hosea won a very large betting pool 

What was their first fight over and how did they get past it?it was after John came back from being gone for the year. And they only worked passed it because of Hosea and bottle of very old whiskey.  

Which one is more easily made jealous?Arthur 

What is their favourite thing to get to eat?When they can go go saloons and get a good meal. 

Who’s the cuddly one? What their favourite cuddling position?John, and he likes to be the little spoon 

Are they hand holders?No

How long do they wait before sleeping together for the first time? What’s the circumstances?It was after John came back and they went out fishing and it started to rain and they were done waiting. 

Who tops?

Arthur 

What’s the worst first they’ve ever gotten into?

Stolen Dutch rings 

Who does the shopping and the cooking?They both do

Which one is more organized and prone to tidiness?Arthur 

Who proposes?John 

Do they have joined Bachelor/Bacheloette parties or separate?Joined parties 

Who is the best man/maid of honour? Any other groomsmen or bridesmaids?Best man for Arthur was Dutch, for John it was Javier 

Big Ceremony or Small?

Small Do they have a honeymoon? If so, where?  No

Do they have children? How many?

One, John son Jack 

Dutch and Hosea 

How did they they meet?

By a campfire trying to steal from each other Who developed romantic feelings first?

Funny enough it was Dutch

Who is their biggest “shipper?”Susan 

When did they have their first kiss and under what circumstances?They scooping out a bank to rob, when they were almost caught by the law. Hosea acted fast and kissed Dutch, it was by some miracle that law assumed Dutch was a woman. 

Who confessed their feelings first?Hosea, they had some alone time and just told Dutch. 

What was their first official date?Going into town and going to some mayor party. They robbed the man of everything he had 

How do they feel about double dates/group dates?They like alone time 

What do they do in their down time?Read, play cards, listen to music, or plan heists 

What was the first meeting of parents as an official couple like?N/A 

What was their first fight over and how did they get past it?It was after colter and blackwater. Hosea was getting pissed off at dutch for listening to micah more and more, and Hosea felt like he was pushed out of dutch life. It was a pretty nasty fight and everyone assumed that the gang was going to break up right there and then. Thankfully Susan was able to get them to work it out with some help from charles and arthur.

Which one is more easily made jealous?

Hosea What is their favourite thing to get to eat?For Hosea it’s bear meat, but done right with some vegetables and nice glass of red wine, and something sweet after. Dutch it’s steak rare, with a nice glass of white wine or bourbon. Together they like deer.  

Who’s the cuddly one? What their favourite cuddling position?Dutch hides it but he loves to cuddle with Hosea, and when they can Dutch likes to be the little spoon. 

Are they hand holders?Yes 

How long do they wait before sleeping together for the first time? What’s the circumstances?Not long, it was sometime after they confessed and they went at like rabbits in the woods. Someone thought it was bears. 

Who tops?Dutch is a power bottom  

What’s the worst first they’ve ever gotten into?Micah 

Who does the shopping and the cooking?Hosea 

Which one is more organized and prone to tidiness?Hosea 

Who proposes?Dutch it was a scavenger hunt 

Do they have joined Bachelor/Bacheloette parties or separate?Separate 

Who is the best man/maid of honour? Any other groomsmen or bridesmaids?Hosea best man is Arthur and for Dutch it's John 

Big Ceremony or Small?

Big Do they have a honeymoon? If so, where?  

Yes, to Tathitt Do they have children? How many?

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Favorite Color: purple (same as urs starprincej !!)

Lipstick or Chapstick: I’m not a makeup kinda guy but I love chapstick

Last Song I Listened To: Try to Change - Mother Mother

Last Movie I Watched: I watched Repo! The Genetic Opera over Halloween

Top Three TV Shows: Gravity Falls, Yugioh, Over the Garden Wall

Top Three Bands/Artists: Mew, Mother Mother, Kimya Dawson

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4. primary skills [ex: handguns]

Viridian: prefers silenced pistols and sniper rifles. also skilled with his monowire and revolvers.

Vermilion: prefers mantis blades and assault rifles. also skilled with blunt weapons.

Verdigris: prefers shotguns and gorilla arms (AKA his fists lol). also skilled with light or heavy machine guns.

Vitellary: jack of all trades. will use anything she can get her hands on and has no preference, weapon-wise. has no weaponized cyberware.

Violet: prefers knives (throwing or otherwise). also skilled with the projectile launcher, katanas, and smgs.