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Thanks for asking! 

As of now, there are no concrete plans on posting fanart until our admins have a free schedule.  

Oh my gosh, I love this! Just... THANK YOU SO MUCH! It's really nice for someone to actually SAY this sort of thing. Really, Admin Nee is to thank for this, because she was the one that originally had the idea for this blog; the rest of us admins just answered when she called for help.

I do like thinking that we are making a huge difference in someone's life, but even if we make a small dent or just plant an idea that life is worth living (or life gets better, or there are good people out there; stuff like that), I'm happy.

But I know that all of us here didn't do it for any recognition or anything, we just want to help people and we have tons of things to say and advice to give.

But, again, just thank you! You rock!

-Admin A

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You, anon, are awesome. We do try our best, and we're glad to see that people are responding positively :)

It's good that she's opening up to you, because sometimes all you need is just for there to be someone to listen and be there for you. Take it easy, and help her as much as you can. See where things go and take it from there. You shouldn't push her or yourself into something. Solid relationships take time and effort to build. It's hard to give a more exact answer, because every case is so different, but I hope it helped some. You should trust your gut and go with that! Trust in yourself and your feelings!

-- Admin Axxent

Maybe, if you feel like you dare, you could try dropping a hint or two about your feelings, just to see the reaction. If you want a more exact answer, though, and don't like it when it's all vague, then you should probably gather some courage and tell her - that will always be the easiest way to know for sure. She's said she doesn't think she can love anyone, I take it; but love doesn't start as love. There needs to be a base for love to grow from, and since she's opened up to you it must mean she trusts you, right? So you two already have a base, which is a definite good sign. ^^

I have some pretty short and heads-on advise for you; Ask him!! Just build up the courage and ask him! If you really want to know it's the only way you can get the answer. There is no point in trying to figure it out by his actions, because that will only be confusing and lead to misreadings and all kinds of weirdness.Take a leap of faith! I promise that it'll feel a lot better when you know, (if not knowing bothers you that is). You never know what awesome adventure you two might start together if you are just honest about what you want!

--Admin Axxent

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Just think; you're sitting here asking yourself if he likes you, without saying anything out loud, what if he's doing the same thing at his end...

-- Admin Nee

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All I can say is, listen to Admin Nee. She has an excellent point. Otherwise, I'm not experienced with relationships and such (though people say I give great relationship advice, go figure), so I won't say very much on this matter. But I will say this: It won't be easy to find the answer to this question unless you go and look for it yourself. :)

~Admin MM

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Definitely ask! The very worst feeling is regret so even if he doesn't like you back, the hurt from rejection is only temporary. Going the rest of your life regretting is the worst.

.... I started having thoughts about death a lot as well, I'm not suicidal, but I just don't know, it's not good. I don't really know what you can say but I just needed to let this out. I guess it's just anxiety and stress getting to me. Thanks (sorry for dragging this into 2 questions)

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Hello Anon!I know what you are going through, because I'm in the middle of it myself. I'm in my third year at university, so I consider myself to have a considerate amount of experience with this.The main advise I can give you is: Take a step back and find your perspective again. It's easy to get lost in the piles of essays, labs and exams, but you need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

Find a good routine and stick to it! Devote a certain amount of time for school a day, and when you are done you are done, no matter how much there is still to be done. And never forget to take regular breaks to clear your head so that you can focus better. Most important: DO SOMETHING FUN! Hang out with friends, play the guitar, draw, sing, build a huge boat if that's something you'd enjoy!

You should definitely reconsider talking to your friends, it's what they are for! I sure they would listen, and it's good to have someone that knows, maybe they can help you more than you think.

Drop the smoking immediately! It's an addiction that will only drain your energy without bringing any good what so ever. D: Stop while you still can.

Don't lose faith in yourself, remember that you are amazing.

My advice though would be this: During these times when you feel anxious find something that calms you. Try this, breathe deep through your nose to your navel and out through the mouth, close your eyes while doing this and picture your pulling in good air, (give it a color, for example mines yellow, makes me happy ^^) and pushing out the bad air and anxiety (give that a color as well like black)   focus on your breathing and only your breathing for as long as it takes to calm down. The colors help make focusing easier.

-- Admin E

You should try this, it really helps. And if you are in class, go outside if it's possible to give yourself some space.

Prioritize what you need to get done, and slowly work off the list when you feel that you can. Your health and wellbeing is the absolute top priority, nothing comes before that.

I hope this helps, and if you feel like you need more don't hesitate a second to send a million asks if that's what you need!

It get's better, I promise.

-- Admin Axxent

I agree with everything Admin Axxent said, and I really just want to stress the importance of talking to your friends. Even just getting it out is always a huge relief, especially crying with somebody. Do you have anyone you feel you could do that with? If so, I really think it would help a lot.

And like Admin Axxent said, send however many asks you want, say whatever you'd like, and I hope that we can make you feel better somehow!

-- Admin Nee

Talk to your friends, I find that it often helps best to talk about things like this with someone of your age rather than a grown up, because adults tend to all say pretty much the same thing, and chances are that, like Admin Nee said, even just letting your friends know what you're going through can be really helpful in de-stressing! ^^

Try and focus on the good things in life, and like the other admins said, talk to us as much as you want! That's what we're here for! ^^

Meliorism (the belief that the world gets better; the belief that humans can improve the world) Latibule (a hiding place; a place of safety and comfort)