I love you people who don't understand metaphors I love you people who don't understand jokes I love you people who take sarcasm seriously I love you people who take satire seriously I love you people who get told to just google it and don't know what to google I love you people who make post additions deemed "pointless" I love you literal-minded people I love you socially impaired people I wish I could love you so hard it undid the hate you get
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today, april 11th, is the anniversary of Mel Baggs' death. Mel Baggs was one of the early founders of the neurodiversity movement and believed that no one was too disabled for human rights, something that modern nd movements fail to understand to this day. sie was so instrumental to my understanding of literally everything. sie died from medical ableism and neglect during the beginning of the pandemic. we would be nowhere fucking near where we are now without hir. i've decided to make a masterlist of some of my favorite posts of hirs, organized into different categories.
(some of these are listed in more than one category because they overlap so much)
here are some of the "essentials" (what you might have already read by hir/should read first):
hir memorial site hosted by ASAN:
In My Language
the oak manifesto
There is ableism at the heart of your oppression, no matter what your oppression might be
Getting The Truth Out (many pages, parody of bad autism awareness campaign called "getting the word out")
the meaning of self-advocacy
what makes institutions bad
aspie supremacy can kill
here are some of hir beautiful writings on perceiving/communicating with hir environment as an autistic person, and on communication in general:
up in the clouds and down in the valley: my richness and yours
distance underthought
the naked mechanisms of echolalia
empty mirrors and redwoods
the fireworks are interesting
hir tumblr tag #sensing (@withasmoothroundstone)
on personhood and who has the authority to take it away:
being an unperson
what it means to be real
empty mirrors and redwoods
And understand that this is confusing. So when I write about decisions I am making, don’t take them as judgements on people who don’t or ca
on institutions and the I/DD service system:
caregiver abuse takes many forms
"i don't know that person's program"
what my home means to me
dd service system tag
god help the critic of the dawn: glamour and its fallout
what makes institutions bad
post on the JRC
outposts in our heads
on online social justice communities/their inaccessibility:
Your politics have a problem when they contradict the real-life experiences of the people they're supposed to be about.
[If this post is too long for you, try this other post, which summarizes it, but doesn't have quite as much information.]
First off, quickl
I’m autistic. Not everyone autistic sucks at pronouns, but enough autistic people suck at pronouns that it’s been remarked upon since the v
politics, ethics and mental widgets
hir tumblr tags #outside the wall and #little packages (@withasmoothroundstone)
misc:
The Bones My Family Gave Me
Please violate only one stereotype at a time
My sort of people, just as real as theirs.
Reviving the concept of cousins
gender tag
this is hir poems and creative works:
Poetry and creative writing
this is hir writing on autistics.org:
Personal non-site and FAQ by an autistic
woman who used to have a more extensive website, and where to find her
current writing on autism
hey fellow neurodivergent people, however you respond to grief is okay. even if it's not the "normal" way. even if it's not what's expected of you. even if you feel "too much". even if you feel nothing at all. your reactions to grief aren't bad or wrong, as long as you aren't hurting yourself or others by lashing out or self destructing
and if you are lashing out or self destructing, that just means you need a little extra help and some better coping mechanisms. it doesn't mean you as a person or your emotions are bad. it just means you need a little extra help to be able to grieve safely
If you've done deep dives into Rudolf Steiner's philosophies you may have seen those initials. L.K was an elementary school girl who Steiner once spoke about.
He said of L.K. and kids like her "The girl L.K. in class 1...is one of those cases that are occurring more and more frequently where children are born and human forms exist which actually, with regard to the highest member the ego, are not human at all but are inhabited by beings who do not belong to the human race." He goes on to say that kids like L.K. are "not human beings at all but demons in human form."
Given some of the examples Steiner lists, it's an open secret in Waldorf/anthroposophy circles that he is talking about developmentally disabled children.
I am developmentally disabled. Autistic, specifically. A frequent trope invoked by parents of kids like me is that their real child was "stolen" and "replaced." The implication being that we aren't their real children, we're Something Else. Something not quite human, just like L.K.
Waldorf supporters will often claim that survivors take this quote out of context, that it's a metaphor and no one really thinks this is true.
But as a DD kid at a Waldorf school, it couldn't have been clearer that my teachers did believe it. (as an aside, even if it was a metaphor, it would still be disgusting and ableist and dehumanizing and demonstrate a deep hatred of disabled children)
For one thing, I was literally told this several times, that I was not human. That I was a monster. A demon. Not a person. That I had no soul. Because Steiner said so and he was "clairvoyant" so he must have been right. Because in a cult, you don't question shit like that.
The twisted, appropriative Waldorf take on "karma" was also at play. Other kids (the normal, human kids) were encouraged to either bully me or not interact with me at all, because being nice to me or even basically polite would hurt their "karma."
This was in the mid 2000s. Less than 20 years ago. They believe this. Don't ever let them try to tell you they don't.
Who made the hashtag actuallyautistic? I can’t trace it down
This is a great question. Alyssa Hillary Zisk gives an account of it here.
"The short version is that the autism tag was and is an unsafe place for many autistic people because folks didn't get that autistic people were following and reading and might be capable of having opinions on what we were reading, the actuallyautistic/ actually autistic tags are safer for some autistic people, and thus they exist."
It seems like #acutallyDD (developmentally disabled) originated around the same time, possibly predating it. There's also a Dreamwidth community started in 2012 called Actually Autistic. Not sure if there's any relation, but it's worth noting.
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Virginia Knowlton Marcus describes the current State vaccination plan and urges Gov. Cooper to prioritize people with high-risk conditions.
North Carolina has decided to de-prioritize a lot of the people who would have gotten vaccinated early before our plan changed. This is dangerous for neurodivergent people who have caregivers coming into their homes and can’t necessarily control what their caregivers do outside of work. It’s also dangerous for essential workers who have chronic conditions that make COVID more risky for them. They have to keep showing up for work, and they can’t necessarily control the public they work with. It’s the same for disabled and chronically ill people who live with essential workers.
We’re trying to get these two groups, people who are higher-risk and can’t really control their exposures, vaccinated soon. We could use some help, especially from anyone with an NC connection who is on Twitter. The hashtag is #HighRiskNC.
Did anyone else use to read books about child development when they were kids and become deeply upset over how “behind” they were?
You know, those books that tell parents when their kids are supposed to meet certain milestones? I used to read those when I was a kid and wonder what the hell was wrong with me.
Then I met other kids who were developmentally disabled and became friends with them. And even though it took a while for me to realize I was autistic, getting to know them made me feel better about being “behind” developmentally. Because they weren’t meeting those milestones either, and they were great. Which meant maybe I was ok too.