#acespec term

Like, lets just say someone's attracted to someone but randomly loses it but then randomly gains it back?

the prefix nearese (pronounced knee-are-essay) refers to orientations where one feels a complete disconnect from the concept of a certain kind of attraction, despite experiencing said attraction, due to neurodivergence. so, for example, someone who experiences sexual attraction and knows they do but, due to being neurodivergent, feel a disconnection from the concept of sexual attraction. it may feel like they feel sexual attraction, but it feels like someone else is feeling it and they’re just watching, or just any disconnect from the kind of attraction due to neurodivergence.

this term is not for neurodivergent people who do not experience a specific form of attraction due to a feeling of disconnection, but for neurodivergent people who do experience a form of attraction from which they feel disconnected. this feeling may vary and how the disconnection feels may vary, as everyone experiences neurodivergence differently.

this can be affected by any kind of neurodivergence.

the prefix nearese- can be added to any form of attraction to specify- nearesesexual, neareseromantic, nearesequeerplatonic, neareseplatonic, nearesealterous, nearesesensual, and neareseaesthetic

etymology- from the irish term for mental health (neareolaiochta) and the samoan word for divergent (ese’ese).

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nearesesexual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, medium purple, magenta, red-pink, red, red-pink, magenta, medium purple, and black. End ID.]

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neareseromantic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, neon green, golden-brown, red-brown, red, red-brown, golden-brown, neon green, and black. End ID.]

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nearesequeerplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, golden yellow, orange, red-pink, red, red-pink, orange, golden yellow, and black. End ID.]

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neareseplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, yellow, lime-grey, golden orange-brown, red, golden orange-brown, lime-grey, yellow, and black. End ID.]

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nearesealterous flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, sky blue, medium blue, medium magenta, red, medium magenta, medium blue, sky blue, and black. End ID.]

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nearesesensual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, orange-yellow, orange, orange-red, red, orange-red, orange, orange-yellow, and black. End ID.]

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neareseaesthetic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, light blue, sky blue, medium purple, red, medium purple, sky blue, light blue, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapreic-

an a-spec orientation where one is both cupio- and apres-! this means they do not experience a certain type of attraction, but are still interested in being in a relationship. however, they are only willing to be in a relationship after another form of attraction is felt.

for example, someone who is cupiapromantic would be cupioromantic and a modified concept of apresromantic- they don’t experience much, if any, romantic attraction, but they are up for having a romantic relationship with someone if they feel another form of attraction to the person(s). this can apply to any other form of attraction and relationship as well!

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cupiapsexual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, violet, magenta, rose pink, white, salmon pink, magenta, blue-purple, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapromantic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, rose pink, lime green, pastel yellow, white, salmon pink, magenta, blue-purple, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiaplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, deepened goldenrod, yellow, pastel yellow, white, pastel yellow, yellow, deepened goldenrod, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapqueerplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, medium pink, orange, pastel yellow, white, pastel yellow, orange, medium pink, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapalterous flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, light royal blue, denim blue, sky blue, white, sky blue, denim blue, light royal blue, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapaesthetic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, deep denim blue, sky blue, turquoise, white, turquoise, sky blue, deep denim blue, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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cupiapsensual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with 11 equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, pink-brown, deep orange, golden orange, pastel yellow, white, pastel yellow, golden orange, deep orange, blue-grey, and black. End ID.]

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aegoace-

someone who is aegosexual when it comes to one/a few genders, but asexual when it comes to other genders. it’s a subset of parosexual, where one experiences aegosexual attraction to some, but not all, of the genders they’re attracted to, but are ace/apothi towards others.

[Image ID: A flag with three separate parts- two right triangles composed of individual layers stretching from the bottom two corners to the top corners and the bottom center of the flag, and an inverted triangle composed of individual layers filling the rest of the flag’s space. From top to bottom, the colors of each layer in the two bottom-corner right triangles are indigo, tan, cream yellow, cream orange, cream brown, grey-brown, grey-purple, and grey-indigo. The colors of the inverted triangle between those two triangles are the same but in a reversed order. End ID.]

aegoaro-

someone who is aegoromantic when it comes to one/a few genders, but aromantic when it comes to other genders. it’s a subset of paroromantic, where one experiences aegoromantic attraction to some, but not all, of the genders they’re attracted to, but are aro/apothi towards others.

coupu- is a prefix for orientations where one experiences a certain type of attraction but feels completely disconnected from that attraction. they know they experience it, but the thought of it feels foreign, like they experience it but it’s not really them, there’s just a disconnect between the person and the concept of a certain form of attraction, despite feeling it.

this term is the non-exclusive version of the nearese- orientations, meaning this version isn’t for people whose neurodivergence affects this orientation. this can be used by anyone- including neurotypical people and neurodivergent people whose neurodivergence doesn’t affect the disconnect between them and the attraction they feel.

etymology- from the french word for disconnection (coupure)

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coupusexual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-purple, medium violet, medium magenta, magenta, medium magenta, medium violet, deep grey-purple, and black. End ID.]

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coupuromantic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-pink, medium pink-purple, rose pink, magenta, rose pink, medium pink-purple, deep grey-pink, and black. End ID.]

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coupuqueerplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-red, medium rust orange, goldenrod yellow, pastel yellow, goldenrod yellow, medium rust orange, deep grey-red, and black. End ID.]

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coupuplatonic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-yellow, deep chartreuse, chartreuse, pastel yellow, chartreuse, medium chartreuse, deep grey-yellow, and black. End ID.]

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coupusensual flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep brown, medium brown, orange, tan, orange, medium brown, deep brown, and black. End ID.]

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coupualterous flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-blue, medium denim blue, medium periwinkle blue, periwinkle blue, medium periwinkle blue, medium denim blue, deep grey-blue, and black. End ID.]

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coupuaesthetic flag-

[Image ID: A flag with nine equally-sized horizontal stripes. From top to bottom, the colors are black, deep grey-turquoise, medium denim blue, sky blue, neon blue, sky blue, medium denim blue, deep grey-turquoise, and black. End ID.]

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