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When Bad Allies Get “Good Guy” Awards

A while back I wrote about fake allies—specifically, Charles Clymer, a cis white dude who used to run a popular Facebook page called “Equality for Women” but shut it down amidst accusations that, among other things, he was deleting comments from and banning women who questioned his views or the way he ran the page. And then there was his abusive verbal flaying of Stephanie Kay in a private conversation that went public a year or so ago and revealed the dude beneath the Perfect Feminist Ally act. It didn’t help that when called on that tirade, Clymer basically stood by his remarks and went on to admit—almost proudly—that his goal is to become a professional Feminist Leader. And he dug himself in deeper when, following the many accusations leveled at him directly and via the #StopClymer hashtag (by nearly every woman who had been a moderator at the EFW Facebook page, among others), he tweeted promising to address his “mistakes” with an apology and dropped off the Internet for several weeks. When he reappeared, he deleted the aforementioned tweet and went back to promoting the “Charles Clymer: Feminist Ally” brand. ... Now the National Women’s Political Caucus has announced that Clymer will receive their 2014 “Good Guy” award for being “vocal” on behalf of women.

Let’s Talk About Robin Thicke’s Abusive Ploy To “Get Her Back”

By now, most people know that serial boundary pusher Robin Thicke is reluctantly single, and in the middle of a full-on media blitz to prove contrition for the unnamed offenses that drove away his lady love, actress Paula Patton. Said media blitz is supposedly meant to “Get Her Back,” as indicated by the lead single of the same name, from his new album of public apologies, Paula. (more…)

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