#aba -

usually I wouldn’t give advice here, but the #1 thing I can think of is to get her to watch this video:

Ask an Autistic - What is ABA? (by Amythest Schaber aka Neurowonderful)

Amythest explains that ABA is awful, and why it’s awful.

Each subject in the experimental group was assigned several well-trained student therapists who worked (part-time) with the subject in the subject’s home, school, and community for an average of 40 hr per week for 2 or more years [...] High rates of aggressive and self-stimulatory behaviour were reduced by being ignored; by the use of time-out; by the shaping of alternate, more socially acceptable forms of behaviour; and (as a last resort) by the delivery of a loud “no” or a slap on the thigh contingent upon the presence of the undesirable behaviour (Lovaas, 1987).

but guess what, dipshit? citing sources is only half of actually understanding the information. the other half is critically evaluating information. and if you had bothered to do that at all whatsoever, you might have come to the conclusion that hitting preschool- and elementary-aged children is fucking unethical and abusive! or you might have come to the conclusion that forty hours of therapy a week for 2+ years in children that same age, on top of school and all their other daily activities, is also fucking unethical!