#40-something

Book Review: Lucy Checks In by Dee Ernst

Summary:Lucia Giannetti needs a fresh start. Once the hotel manager of a glamorous NYC hotel and intimately involved with the hotel’s owner, Lucy had her entire future planned out. But when the owner disappears, taking millions of dollars with him, Lucy’s life as she knows it falls apart. Two years later, forty-nine years old and unemployed, Lucy takes a job in Rennes, France to manage the Hotel…

I began loathing selfies and close up pics. I blamed them for this new hyper awareness of mine. I found myself staring at others and making comparisons.

I also noticed many people sporting a shit ton of Botox!

Nobody really talks about getting “it” done.  However, the tell-tale signs are all over Facebook, Instagram and the media.  Creaseless foreheads and zero laugh lines aren’t a natural reality after 40.

Although the idea of paralyzing part of my face terrifies me. The Botoxers I know…look good….younger than their age.

So it begged the question…..Botox….yea or nay?

After a bit of consideration. My answer is nay and here’s why.

I never identified as the “pretty” one, the “smart” one, the “sporty” one, or the “preppy” one. I’m dating myself with the preppy term but you get what I mean. Pick your cliché moniker and it was never me.

I’ve alway been good with being me….sporty enough…pretty enough….smart enough, etc.

So at 40-something, I’m not going to subscribe to an alternative version of myself.

When I’m in BFR (bitchy resting face)….I have a few lines. But man, smiling face is starting to look like labyrinth face (LF). But, that is okay. It really is. I can own that I laugh with my eyes and my whole damn face.

I’ve discovered that I’m drawn to people’s lines. Fascinated even. They invite a story. Reveal personality. The deeper the lines, the wiser the face appears and the more intrigued I am. In many cases, I find these life/laugh lines sexy as hell.

So for now…..no Botox for this Mama. I’ll keep doing me and see what happens.

I will still remain a sucker for a great moisturizer and drink loads of water because I’m not totally throwing in the towel.

As for the wrinkles, let them come as they may…..I kind’ve welcome them.

DISCLAIMER

This piece is not intended to sway, demean or criticize anyone. Choices are always individual and personal. Whatever floats your boat, lifts your spirits and makes you feel good about yourself…. is the right choice for you.  x

What’s your story? Thoughts on Botox? Please leave your thoughts and stories.

This Is The Average 40-Year-Old

After our article about millennial earlier in the week, we now bring the stats about 40-somethings. And they are having it tough too. Pay inequality is an issue. The average 40 something is not earning a lot. In fact, men are earning an average of £28,460, but women are earning an average of £21,629. A huge gap. Worries include savings, health, looks, and caring for relatives. Read on for stats…

‘When you look over the past five years of your life, do you find yourself in the place you’d thought you’d be?’ Tell Your Own Story