#3rd parent

I can't help but vent on this one. My parents get upset whenever I dare to have a social life, because that means I can't play the third parent for my younger sisters. They never wanted a female child, but boy are they glad I exist when it's time to take the "mommy" role. Unfortunately, I often get frustrated with myself because of it. Whenever I say "no", they say I'm being ungrateful and useless, then bring up the fact that they did everything for me, so now I need to return the favor...

I got so used to being on my own schedule while away at school. I had an apartment then, so I got a taste of what independence felt like. Now I'm back at home, and I have all these responsibilities dumped on me as a result until I can afford my own place. I didn't ask for these responsibilities and it feels weird getting blamed for not taking care of the kids I never asked for (and kids THEY never planned). They say I'm single and child free so I should have ALL the time in the world. It doesn't feel like that at all.

This might not seem strange, but I have 4 siblings (who are not in the group chat). The group chat is basically a collection of “who’s picking A up from school?”, “can one of you take A to practice?”, and “A is going to need dinner by 4 today so they can leave at 4:30” and other such comments. Basically, it’s me and my parents coparenting my younger sibling. Furthermore, they (my sibling) acknowledge me as such.