#30lessons

“Taylor Swift”

“Taylor Swift”

“Has NOT declined to addressed the matter.”

“Global PHILOSOPHER Taylor Swift!”

#30lessons.

1. The scariest place to be is the same place as last year. Grow.

2. Growth isn’t always constant. relapses happen. it doesn’t erase all your success.

3. It's okay if takes a little longer than you thought.

4. Work on mastering your mind. Don’t allow for it to play tricks on you. 

5. Take calculated risks. Nothing can substitute experience. 

6. Your time isn't wasted if you used it for rest or recovery time. 

7. Any moments of happiness or comfort, any small accomplishments, they all matter. 

8. Some of your hardest battles, you will fight alone. 

9. Simply surviving is something to be proud of. 

10. Some people will only hear what they want to hear and believe what they want to believe. Let them. As long as you have the right intentions, you will flourish. 

11. Have patience with all things but first of all-- with yourself.

12. Not all wounds gush blood. 

13. Find your way to accept the pain, grieve, and let it be in the past where it belongs. 

14. Learn how to say "no" and learn how to close some doors. 

15. Don’t overthink the future. Focus on now. 

16. Don't tell people your plans. Show them your results.

17. Try, as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might.

18. Work hard to reach your purpose in life, but don’t force yourself to do something that just isn’t for you. Just because the world will see it as ‘successful’ does not mean it’s the right quest for you. 

19. It’s both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply.

20. Forgiveness is essential. Doesn't mean it's easy. 

21. You are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel. 

22. Our greatest glory does not consist of never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

23. Love is work, a relationship is not effortless, and maturity will make you understand that with the right person it’s worth it. 

24. Prioritize your sleep, nutrition and daily habits.

25. Some mysteries aren't to be solved. They are to be lived. 

26. Life is an echo. What you send out, comes back. It always gets back to you. So give goodness.

27. The older you get, the more you choose calm over chaos and distance over disrespect.

28. Be honest about what you want, what you need and what you feel. 

29. You attract the right things when you have a sense of who you really are. 

EXTREMELY PERSONAL STORY TIME.

In the last year, I have gained a lot of weight. I am not OVERweight, but I have always been “the tiny girl,” short and skinny. It became a part of me I was proud of. I liked being stick thin, and people at work or whatever being jealous because I could eat whatever I want and not gain anything. Then, all of a sudden, it felt like I just went to bed one night and woke up 25 pounds heavier. I’m currently the HEAVIEST I have EVER been. I have tried to eat healthier, but as a really picky eater, I struggle every time and quickly go back to my bad eating habits. I absolutely hate working out. Running makes my lungs feel like they’re on fire. So for awhile, things have been REALLY really dark for me mentally. Every time I look in the mirror or step on the scale or try on clothes, it feels like there is a literal WAR inside my brain and all I can see are those brand new 25 pounds I’ve gained and how they make all of my clothes look terrible on me. I’ve talked to multiple friends, my family, my boyfriend, and they’ve all told me I look great and I need to stop obsessing about it. They’ve told me to change my diet, exercise, try this new meal, etc. etc. But none of their words or advice (while definitely apprediated!) truly helped me feel any better or look at myself in a different light, or stop beating myself up for feeling “fat” 24/7. Nothing helped. UNTIL I read this article and saw lesson number 4. @taylorswift, I know that you will probably NEVER see this, but I just don’t know how else to try and thank you. YOU are the first thing/person who has made me feel even a little better about my new body. Reading this I just kept thinking, “if Taylor Swift can love and embrace her new CURVES, (not FAT. FAT carries such a negative tone...) than so can I. I still feel down sometimes about being the heaviest I’ve ever been, but reading this helped me take my first step towards accepting that this is what being a 23-year-old WOMAN looks like, and I can eventually be ok with that.

Thank you so so much @taylorswift. For everything.