I have come to accept that one of my roles within the system is to hold emotions related to abandonment, however I have no clue how to go about processing the memories. In contrast with the abuse memories, which a major part of processing is realizing that we/the pre-us system did not do anything wrong. With abandonment memories they happened later so we struggle to play the "we were so young, there was nothing we could do have do to stop it", and when I look back I DO actually see things that might have stop the person/people from leaving.















