#(psa;)

I’m not gonna sugar coat things here cause let’s face it, RP is fun and all but this fandom and many fandoms deal with adult content and the internets changed heavily from the early 2010s.

I know it feels like there’s a lot of 21+ only blogs out there and that can feel like fandoms and blogs are being gatekept by adults but trust me when I say that it’s for the safety of everyone online that it’s this way. Not just for Adults but for Minors as well.

There’s real consequences that can happen to Adults if they’re caught writing adult themes with children regardless if they knew their age or not. And that doesn’t mean just explicit (sexual) material.

Hiding or lying about your age to RP in a community that for adults isn’t worth it. Period.

You can get people in a major amount of trouble or even jail time and on a sex offenders list if you aren’t upfront with your age. There are laws specifically to protect children online from these kinds of things and even if it isn’t your intention to get someone in trouble it won’t matter to police or a court system.

If you are below the age requirement of a blog then do NOT interact!!!

For the Adults out there, it’s safe to never interact with a blog that doesn’t have their age stated for your own safety, no matter the state or country you live in there is always the potential of having major life altering consequences so it’s better to steer clear.

Alright, gather ‘round, gremlins and goblins, because Trash Dad’s pulling the minivan over and we’re gonna have a real loud talk about manners on the internet — specifically, your inability to read a damn blog description before flailing into someone’s inbox like a feral raccoon in a recycling bin.

Rule #1:

If someone puts content warnings, shipping preferences, fandom tags, or literal neon-lit disclaimers on their blog and you STILL come whining like, “ummm this makes me uncomfy,” then congratulations — you played yourself.

You were warned. You were guided. You had every signpost telling you “Hey, maybe don’t go poking around here if this ain’t your scene,” and you decided to march in anyway like you were entitled to rearrange someone else’s sandbox. Spoiler alert: you’re not.

Rule #2:

People can ship what they want. People can write what they want. It is not your business.

Don’t like it? That’s cool. Use the magical tools at your disposal:

Scroll. Mute. Block. Leave.

But don’t you dare vague, subtweet, or passive-aggressively try to guilt someone into censoring themselves on their space because you can’t handle seeing a tag you disagree with.

Rule #3:

This is a customizable, adult space. Not preschool. You don’t get gold stars for tone policing or moral grandstanding. We write here to explore, to create, to get unhinged and sometimes deeply messy. If that rattles your pearl-clutching sensibilities, then maybe go knit a Tumblr cozy and chill out somewhere quieter.

Look, Trash Dad gets it — some content just ain’t for you. That’s normal. That’s human. But how you react to it? That’s where your character shows. So either be an adult and curate your space, or go play in traffic on MySpace (not in real life we DON’T want that).

TL;DR:

Mind your damn business. Read the blog. Respect boundaries. And for the love of whatever gods are left, stop trying to make everyone write like they’re a character in a Disney channel original.

Now be good or I’m turning this car around.

I know, I know. Horrifying. Disgusting. Terrible news. I too have looked at my own writing and thought, “Wow, incredible, somehow every word here was chosen by a haunted Roomba.” And yet? We keep going. Because the thing you wrote while tired, anxious, rusty, distracted, overthinking, or convinced you have never once known how sentences work? Someone else might read it and go, “Oh. There it is. That line hit me directly in the ribs.”

You are allowed to be proud of imperfect writing. You are allowed to post the thing even if you think it could be better. You are allowed to have off days, messy drafts, slow replies, weird sentences, and plots held together with glitter glue and denial. Writing is not about being flawless. It is about making something out of nothing and handing it to someone else like, “Here. I made this little creature in my brain. Please be gentle with it.”

And that is brave as hell. So no, your writing is not trash. That is my department. I am the trashdad. You are the raccoon with a tiny typewriter and a dream.

To kick things off, as some of you already know, there’s been a very pleasant change in my life these past couple months and, by extension, on this blog as well. A lot of you, chiefly any current or potential ship partners, were already made aware of this, but I wanted to make an official note on the subject: I’m now ship-exclusive with my irl partner. Which means that from here on out all romantic and sexual dynamics involving Astaria will be exclusive to their muses. This change has already been reflected in my rules!

I would also like to take a moment to acknowledge something that genuinely meant a lot to me. Before making this announcement, I personally reached out to over 20 roleplayers (Astaria was a bit of a ho idk what to tell you), all of them ranging from people I’ve shipped with extensively already or knew might have been interested in shipping with Astaria. That includes longtime friends I’ve written with on and off for years across multiple blogs and characters, as well as newer rp partners I’ve built very meaningful IC and OOC connections with! And I’m very proud to announce that every single one of my RP partners responded with kindness, understanding, and support towards this decision! Some of you even went out of your way to congratulate us, which I truly didn’t expect.

The fact that so many of you were not only okay with the change, but also happy to continue writing with Astaria in a platonic way speaks for itself. It reminded me how lucky I am to be surrounded by people who treat roleplay as what it’s meant to be: a fun, flexible, and safe hobby for everyone!

After some long thought, I've decided that I will no longer be threading heterosexual smut. It makes me uncomfortable sometimes, and I don't have the want, or let's face it, the skill, to keep going with it.

MLM has always been my main focus and wheelhouse and always will be. So going forward, any het implied smut can be in a thread, but it will be fade to black. I am still 100% down to do het ships though, as Henry is bisexual. Nothing will change with any established ships.

The only note I will make here is that there will be two exceptions to this rule for @accordedxneutralxterritory and @vulpuslunae should smut ever come up in our threads again. This is because we have a long established history.

Anything MLM (including trans men, ofc) is still on the table and smut asks for anyone are still on the table. I hope this doesn't upset anyone, but if it does, and you feel like you need to unfollow, then I understand.