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Polyamorous relationships are relationships where everyone involved in the dynamic know each other, respect each other and consent to each other's presence around the participants. Every single participant in a polyamorous relationship know at least the basics of one another, they may not engage with each other, but they know and accept to share the same partner. And the most important: when the idea of a new member joining the polycule comes up, every single member of the polycule is alerted beforehand, and every single member of the polycule has to be, at the bare minimum, comfortable around the newcomer; there's a whole sit together and discuss the pros and cons, and, many times, it's a common inside agreement that all members must agree with the newcomer joining them, otherwise they may be put on trial time.

Open-relationships do not require the all the participants to know or be connected to each other, in fact, many times those who practice this sort of dynamic do it without wanting to meet their partner's partners, because despite wanting the freedom to explore and have new experiences with new people, they also feel like meeting the other partners hurts their pride to a point. There's no agreements aside from basics like "you can date other people, but don't bring them home" kind of thing and, in a good number of cases, it can become too much for one of the sides initially involved, because there are partners who go around and totally forget their original one.

There are polyamorous relationships that include open-relationships when the partners are looking for new people, but often times when things start to take on a more serious tone, they come back to the polycule and talk about bringing the new partner in (if they're into it, of course), or drop the partner that's in the open-relationship dynamic.

The best way I can try to make it clear is to paint a picture of the polyamorous relationship being a sort of engagement between all members, everything is decided together. Meanwhile the open-relationship is like going on several dates, but keeping a single, fixed date one can come back to whenever they feel like all the rest isn't working for theirself.

Yes, it all looks like the same for people from the outside who aren't sure of the inner dynamics, however, for those inside there's a huge difference and it's quite bad when both dynamics get mixed up, because one often brings bad connotations to the other.