I gain respect for people who say that Tajima Uchiha wasn't a good father just because he shows trust in Madara’s judgement one time in his five panel appearance and four lines of dialogue. I just love to see people actually write WS era Uchiha as absolutely no better than the Senju.
I also gain respect for people who don't go out of their way to give Butsuma as many bad and/or irredeemable character traits as you possibly can (racist, transphobic, homophobic, sexist and misogynistic, etc etc etc) just to justify hating him and making you feel sorry for his sons as if what we see him do in canon isn't enough to accomplish that. I hate the guy, but I do think it's more interesting to see people give him more personality than just "abusive and irredeemable asshole" but without erasing that part.
Sending or allowing your young children to die in battle before the age of ten is more than enough to make you irredeemably evil and objectively an awful father in my book, and they are both very much guilty of that.
