pettiness personified

add some fruit and or veggies to your dinner

do your skin care routine when you wake up and before bed

write in your journal, meditate or do yoga for 30mins

spend time off of social media / put your phone away and do irl activities

drink more water

rest – take a 30min-hour nap to calm your mind and body

have irl interactions with a friend, laughter is medicine

spend time in nature – go for a walk, feel the warmth of the sun

make your space tidy – clean your room, make your bed, wash and put away your clothes. these things are important and you’ll feel better when your comfort place is neat

take a bubble bath – you can romanticize your bath time by lighting candles, bringing a book, laying crystals around the tub, using bath bombs etc .. doing these special things for yourself is important

take time out to dance! putting on your favorite songs and moving your body is therapeutic, it’s also a fun way to exercise. grab a hair brush, be the main character and have fun!

∿ it’s the little things, the small adjustments that can make life way better, healthier and fun. improving your mental health and physical health is so important and doesn’t have to be difficult. i hope these tips can help you and if you have any questions or need advice on anything feel free to write me, i’d love to hear what’s on your mind.

- repetitive behavior that is specifically done to hurt you

- they put you down constantly

- they ignore you and exclude you on purpose in an attempt to control you/make you want them more

- guilt trips, guilt trips, guilt trips

- using money/physical abuse/sex/threats to control you

- constant calling/texting when you’re not physically with them to “check up on you” and getting violent when you dont respond

- threatening to commit suicide/hurt themselves or others if you leave them

what isn’t abuse:

- hurting you feelings once or twice and not knowing they’re doing it because you’re not expressing that you’re hurt by their actions.

- hanging out with another one of their friends/their romantic partners without you.

- breaking off a friendship/relationship to take care of their own mental health/take care of their own problems first

using inappropriate language this goes beyond just cursing; it also includes making dark jokes, making “seggsual” innuendos, self-deprecating humor, and verbal negativity (gossip and saying negative things about self, others, or future plans).

allowing men to take up my time without them giving any type of investment in me my time is valuable, and it’s hard to gain complete access to me, let alone a little bit of access to me. phone calls will be cut short, texts won’t be too lengthy, and if they want to see me, they need to schedule and confirm a date with me.

accepting the bare minimum from not only others, but myself also everything i do from this moment forward needs to be 110% my best. i show up, i work my best, and i leave knowing that i did everything i could in that given time. i’m not leaving any room for regrets this year.

drinking alcohol because of my job in the nightlife industry, i find myself to drink a lot more than i should to help me get through the night. i usually feel gross the next day, it adds to any mental hardships i face, and it’s just not good for my body overall. the only times i will drink this year is if it’s my birthday, new year’s eve, or any other special occasion like a holiday or a special person’s birthday— if so, i’m limiting myself to one glass of high quality wine or champagne. tequila and any other spirit is an absolute “no” for me.