The House That Love Built.
It all started with a good foundation. We spent time getting to know one another. It wasnt just matching up kinks, though that was a lot of fun! It was learning who the other was as a person, what we found important in life, what made us happy or angry, what stirred compassion or righteous anger, each others grandkids. We try not to talk about politics lol. We talked about our past. We explored each other's passions, dreams, and goals. We clicked. We realized that we wanted to build something together.
We looked at our individual needs and began to incorporate those into a structure. Every good home requires a solid structure to withstand the elements, the things that life WILL throw at us. This is our haven from the demands in our life, our soft place to land. Here, we close the doors to all but us and shed the weighty expectations of others and revel in being our true selves. We are careful about how we build, the materials and words we use, the time and focus we use to construct. Safety and the ability to withstand life's storms are of the utmost importance in this step, for this is where our dynamic lives and it must be well protected.
Our rules are the floor plan. Weve laid out what our dynamic looks like and how it will serve to make each other better. Each rule is there for a reason. We havent the time or energy to dust off or maintain rules that dont add to our life. Unused rooms still require maintenance, utilities, and cleaning or they will cause a home to fall into disrepair. We look at arbitrary rules in the same vein, an exhaustion of our resources and not worth the risk of damage to our dynamic.
Communication is our plumbing and wiring. It keeps everything flowing well. It provides warmth when needed. Conversely, it cools tempers or soothes hurts. It casts light to chase away fear and dispel shadows of confusion and misunderstanding. Without it, our home would just be a cold, dark shell.
Our wants are how we decorate. This is how we tailor our home to make it reflective of us. Here are the splashes of color, the textures, our tastes melding together. This we do slowly, adding souvenirs as we experience moments with each other.
Regular maintenance is necessary to take care of what we've built. We try to keep it all running smoothly but things need repairing at times. Stress will break some things down. We've postponed some plans to deal with other, more urgent repairs, and it's all ours. It's the cost of ownership. He is mine. I am His.
This is our Home Sweet Home ❤
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