Fire Breathing Bitch

Saedii after Tyler defeated the Drakkon

"Helion, High Lord of the Day Court, arrived at the Hewn City the next afternoon on a flying horse.

He’d wanted to enter the dark city in a golden chariot led by four snow-white horses with manes of golden fire, Rhys had told Cassian, but Rhys had forbidden the chariot and horses, and let Helion know that he could winnow in or not come at all.

Hence the pegasus. Helion’s idea of a compromise."

the plot:

Sarah: Here’s Crescent City! Enjoy!

Fandom: This isn’t ACOTAR 4—

Hunt: Hi

Ruhn: Hello

Tharion: Hey, Legs ;)

Flynn: ‘Sup

Fandom:

If someone is doing the difficult work of

realizing that they fucked up

not falling into a pity-party or self-flagellation

leaning how they fucked

apologizing sincerely

changing behavior

probably the most likely things to block that process and start a panicked fight/flight response (get defensive / mock / ignore / block) instead would be:

gathering a large crowd

demanding an immediate response

making ‘you fucked up’ into ‘you ARE worthless’

Online accountability processes often involve all three, sometimes deliberately and explicitly.

And I would say that is not a coincidence born out of anger. That is a pattern that people have learned from watching each other. And the reason accountability processes have taken that form is because many are not genuinely seeking accountability from the target. They seek accountability from the audience. They are already pushing for exclusion, they’re just not openly admitting it yet.

And people who do want genuine accountability will repeat this harmful pattern if they have learned from others that this is what starting an accountability process looks like.

This pattern is very difficult to talk about when it happens because it’s mostly not a person being manipulative, it’s a learned and repeated pattern. And pointing that out in the middle of a heated situation will distract from the fuck up and almost certainly be interpreted as tone-policing or attacking the person who is doing the also very difficult work of addressing a fuck up. So bringing this up generally doesn’t help.