Sugar Baby

Sade the Studious

Her education is her main priority…and her leverage.

She is pursuing her education passionately for the sake of networking with the right people. She doesn’t care to find“the one”. Her motive is to make the right connections or be introduced to people she can receive opportunities from.

Lésa the Luxurious

She is here strictly for financial freedom. That’s her main motive for marriage and she’s not shy about it.

She welcomes the masculines whose focus is vanity. She uses her beauty and seductive aura as leverage for securing a very high earning masculine who can provide the luxury lifestyle she requires.

Rene the Romantic

Little Miss “I Love Love”.

She’s not finding love. Instead, she is attracting love like a magnet.

She acknowledges her heartbreaks, childhood issues and other heartbreaking trauma she may have experienced. Owning her hurt allows for her to use it as leverage to show that she is self aware

Suzette the Survivor

She is not shy about surviving the harsh conditions of her home country or childhood. Suzette has used her feminine appearance and other qualities to snag her a high quality husband.

Wanda the Wounded

Sigh she’s not there yet. The girls that get it, get it and Wanda does not get it.

She is finding her footing in the world of self development, therefore we are patient with her and provide advice and inspiration. Unfortunately, we must leave her behind and await Wanda’s arrival when she catches up!

he pays for everything and he drives me to school since i have no car and i need a ride to keep going to school. i feel like i’m with him to survive now until i’m able to get a car and be more independent.

any advice?

You and Ur Friends are High Maintenance w/ Low Income

urTOOspoiled Devil’s Advocate Series

MY ADVICE: Let that mango. You need to get your priorities together.

“He knew I was high maintenance and had high standards and he kept up with it but he’s starting to ask questions that just seems like he wants loopholes to not keep up with my standards but make me lower them which I WILL NOT DO,”

I don’t think you should lower your standards. I think you should meet your own standards BEFORE EXPECTING HIM TO particularly since you’re only with the man out of survival….what do I know though?

A Porsche is high maintenance. So is an infant with an ear infection….

HIGH MAINTENANCE MEANS NOTHING!!!

Focus on becoming HIGH QUALITY…which will solidify your HIGH VALUE…which automatically requires a HIGH amount of MAINTENANCE.

Here’s why I’m playing devils advocate: that man has CONTINUOUSLY kept up with these standards you’ve “TOLD” him about for THREE YEARS despite the fact you haven’t SHOWN him you can meet your own standards.

If you FEEL like you’re with him out of survival, is it fair to assume he probably FEELS like you’re a bit of a financial burden? Is he wrong?

He doesn’t want loopholes nor for you to lower these standards you speak of.

He wants a lover, not a leech- something you’ve BEEN for awhile it seems. He is asking you questions to see where your mind and intentions are at as far as becoming a stable adult.

That’s a smart man right there. I like him. He has a strategy and is (probably, I guess) plotting on breaking up with you as well. Learn how to develop your dating strategy HERE.

I’m sorry but there’s no excuse that you’re with a man who pays for “everything” yet you need him for a ride to “keep going to school,”. That’s not his responsibility. It’s yours. Prioritize it.

You had ample time to save for a car.

You had ample time to put money on your Uber account every week.

You could’ve put money in a savings account and accumulated a nice amount of interest.

You had enough time to become stable while taking advantage of the help a man is giving you. Set the example prior to spewing expectations. Men listen to actions and that you lack.

It’s fascinating reading, watching and overall observing women boast about having high standards yet if that man died today or tomorrow you’re stuck in distress….and eventually soon in another man’s arms who can provide for you. That’s dangerous.

No disrespect, but how “high maintenance” can you be if you lack the funds and ambition to take care of yourself? You get my point, so do better.

Closing Thoughts: Men love a damsel in distress, not a woman whose dependent on them. They will either take advantage of such irresponsibility or they will genuinely help you…to an extent. They’re also taking note to see if you’re a user or ignorantly lazy. If you’re not willing to help yourself they’re going to move on to a more STABLE partner.

Nobody wants to fund your expenses out of obligation. That’s how resentment surfaces. It’s not fair for neither you nor your partner to place such a burden onto them.

If you want to keep him, provide for yourself FIRST so he feels comfortable providing for you because he wants to, not because you need a handout.

To learn how to master dating the masculine, click HERE

Be a spoiled brat, not a spoiled bum.

Stop telling women to forgo education completely bc apparently rich men don’t like educated women (false)

If you go on dates with men and start asking them stupid money questions you memorized from sugar baby blogs, you’re cringe

If you think you’ve “finessed” a man by having him pay for your nails after you’ve spent several hours texting him, calling him, and accompanying him on dates, you’re dumb

Hot girls are a dime a dozen and if y’all are all using the same style tips, the same tiktok level up tips, the same “my car just broke down, can you send me $300 🥺” tips, the same ‘sit at the bar alone and rich men will flock’ tips, you won’t get very far

You may feel special knowing that you’re talking to 10 guys right now bc it makes you feel like you’re in high demand but honestly you’re just giving away your time and attention for free. Draining your social battery for free.

Stop putting your dating business out there on tiktok with your face all up in the camera before you end up on a MGTOW cringe compilation with a bunch of ugly men and pick-me supremes making fun of you in the comment section. Goof ball!

Start working on yourself, make yourself happy, glowup, THEN they come attracted to you, because you are what they want. They want someone that will vibe at the same frequency as they do, someone that values herself, that is a whole, complete han with passions, hobbies, and ideas. And above all, not someone that's gonna lick their boots and go all desperate over them.

Even if you don't have a man "yet", you already have yourself, an amazing person. It's still GREAT, even if there's no partner. You don't go desperate for a partner and you don't go pick whoever to fill the void inside you that you failed to fill. That's the whole idea behind my philosophy regarding hypergamy. It begins with the self, the ME.

My partner might very well die before I do, and if that happens, I'm not gonna be a shell of a human.

Invest in your self care! That’s literally the most important investment you can have during your academic years. If you imagine your future self being happy, wealthy, and well taken care of then you need to start now. Being prudent is just a scam they tell us so that we can work hard and be unhappy. Part of being a successful student is being happy and in a good mental/physical space so that you can focus on studying and getting good grades and subsequently be able to create wealth in the future. I’m not saying blow all your money, but worry less about “saving” or being “frugal” because you have to believe that your loans and all financial worries will be taken care of so you don’t actually have to worry. I probably spend $3-4k a month on self care treatments and my classmates are always so shocked because we’re supposed to be “broke/struggling med school student.” That may be their story but it’s not mine and I don’t want to claim that. Treat yourself and don’t feel guilty about it! You need your pampering and rest now, school is stressful af so don’t buy into that false struggle narrative. Here are some really great, relaxing self care rituals I recommend.

Monthly professional massages. This helped so much with my chronic piriformis/low back pain. I add the cupping and lymphatic drainage and feel like I’m in my teenage body again 😂

Nail salon twice a month. Mani/pedi unless it’s winter then maybe I’ll just do manicures

Cryotherapy a few times a month. This is something new I started this year. It’s soooo good for circulation and post workout soreness

Professional facials once a month. Get a skin consult and they will help assess and tailor your skincare routine

Eyelash extensions every 2-3 weeks. Another new treatment I started this year. It’s soooo much better than having to glue on fakes and actually look so natural and pretty. Makes me feel super feminine and I get compliments all the time

Brow threading and tinting every 2-3 weeks, brow lamination once every 2 months. My brows feel so soft and look so sexy afterwards

Laser hair removal. My 🐱 is so cute afterwards and it’s much quicker than waxing, lasts longer, and hurts a lot less. Plus better for your sensitive skin down there and lessens the impact of hyperpigmentation. Most places allow you to pay in monthly installments

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