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I was wondering if you have any tips for trying to live your life after being a rut? 🖤

hello sweetest

great question! not sure if this counts as a tip but i was stuck in a three year deep deep rut with literally zero identity or sense of belonging and i really believed there would be no coming back so! i spent all the money i had and bought myself a ticket to france to live in a house for €400 a month …… i was there for three months and i think what helps (for me) is the intense setting change where i am forced to take care of myself and prioritize my own needs and find a new rhythm that makes me at peace or joyful. i can’t rely on my old comforts or vices that kept me stuck. some of my favorite joy i think i’ll ever experience was being able to walk one (1!) block down to the bakery and spend €1.70 on a freshly made croissant. focus on the small things and those small steps will get you somewhere new. i gave myself a timeline and made goals with my therapist so i could be deliberate in pulling myself out of the rut but i was also very gentle with my feelings too. i would recommend setting out three new goals (nothing crazy we can always make more goals later) and a timeline to finish it by and be Nice to yourself! a lot of my life right now is because i took a chance and said yes and i eventually got out of anything that reminded me of the rut. a room makeover, a closet detox, journaling, trying something new, there is a good first step for you somewhere in there and i believe in you!

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