a tornado flew around my room

Grave offerings and burying the dead with tools and goods is actually such a deeply human thing to do. It's not really even necessarily about how much you believe in a literal afterlife or them taking the tools with them. It's also just going Wait, I'm Not Done Taking Care Of You, let me make you one more pair of socks so your feet won't be cold when you go wherever it is where I can't follow.

These deeply beautiful and human acts were what ultimately had me dive into anthropology, for all of its problems it showed me how fundamentally human humans really are. I think enormously of other suppositions about burial practices once thought of as sacrifices between the start of the discipline and by the time I chose to leave it. Of the softening of views where no longer were our ancestors treating the dead with brutal contempt or magnificent honor. Why would you not bundle up your child one last time, wrap them tight for the long road and leave them with their toys and a few tools? Of course you would bury your parent with their beloved cat, one of the first that might possibly have been domesticated. The far shores are far indeed. A coat and a hat and your doll, your cat, my ring, this coin. I'm sorry, but your sibling too but please go hand in hand to whatever lurks beyond the far shore. Rations for the long journey too, one must hope that in the dusty plains of the underworld you can find the water from far below without tumbling into the cosmos' abyssal depths. What else can you do when you know they are leaving the house forever?

i hate the idea of sansa ending up as this cold ice queen when through out the books one of her defining characteristics has been kindness. kindness to dontos when joffrey wanted him executed, kindness to the woman with the baby during the riot, kindness to an injured lancel despite cersei's words, kindness through warning margaery of the type of person joffrey is, kindness to sandor clegane and sweetrobin in the vale. sansa even says that once she was queen, she'd wish to rule with kindness when cersei encourages her to rule with fear during the battle of the blackwater. i cant imagine a world where grrm would genuinely go with the idea that only once you refuse love and warmth can you rule