Strike Thanatos

I am not a pick up, okay, in fact, I have been through many abuses. I am very careful and cautious. I don't go to party, play parties and clubbing or whatsoever.

And yes, I am still a virgin despite I did go through sexual abuse but not sex itself.

Play can means many things, it can be from non sexual irl to sexual online or even just light kinks and etc.

I had feelings so I wanted to share those. Spread the word, I think we need to have a chat to @UnusAnnus and @markiplier about what hypnosis actually is...

It’s when people demand neonic free plants and then shop at the big box stores anyway where this stuff all goes wrong. 

We actually just did a ladybug release in our greenhouses the other day! 

The one thing I love about rain...

Is the puddles..

It looks like a spiral..

Looking at it,

it is so calming,

I wouldn't mind sitting or standing somewhere with a shelter though,

just to stare at the rain puddles spiral.

O HAI There.

Happy November! One of my goals with writing every day in October was to get into the habit of writing and posting something every single day. I’ll continue posting on both Fetlife and tumblr, with an additional notification on Twitter.

21 November 2019

Today’s post focuses on subject safety in hypnosis play, especially newer subjects. In practice, this information is also important for hypnotists, especially new hypnotists, who may have gotten the wrong impression about their responsibilities from things they’ve read on the internet.

My two main focuses as a hypnosis convention presenter are subject empowerment and musical applications.(We’ll talk about music later.) I have been helping teach classes that empower subjects since my third hypnocon, where I led a “safe space for new subjects” hang out that was meant to provide a place where new subjects could come and ask questions without feeling pressured or required to perform in a certain way. I have participated in 100-level subject classes, I have been a part of classes covering everything from how to ask for play when you’re an introvert, to the overlap between overtly kinky play and non-kinky play, to self-hypnosis. I truly believe that in order to be safe a subject needs to be educated and informed about how to control their own trance, so that they can easily recognize any issues that may arise (deliberate or otherwise) and protect/defend themselves accordingly.

Knowing this about me, you might think that I agree with the statement: “Your mind is your responsibility.”

(Spoiler alert – I do not, because that blanket statement completely discards the participation of the hypnotist and absolves them of responsibility when mistakes happen. And spoiler alert part 2 – mistakes WILL happen, because that is how humans work.)

Hypnosis play between two or more individuals is a collaborative process. As much as some people fantasize and kink on the idea of having their mind taken away and their will overcome, of being completely brainless and unable to resist, the fact of the matter is that hypnosis is not something that gets done TO you, it’s something that gets done WITH you. And that is true whether you are a brand new subject who has no idea how hypnosis works or a seasoned veteran who could literally write the book on hypnotic safety.

You don’t need to know how hypnosis works in order to be hypnotized.

When faced with a certain sort of stimuli phrased or formed in a certain way, your brain will react in a way that can be predicted and planned for. More unpredictable is the degree to which your brain will react; subjects learn to be more proficient at going into trance with practice (and it’s also true that the depth of trance that different people reach as neophytes is unique to each individual and cannot be predicted ahead of time.)

Saying that a new, uneducated subject is responsible for their own mind is like saying that a new, uneducated student is responsible for their own chemical reactions. As a teacher, you would never ask a chemistry student to perform a potentially dangerous experiment without safety gear, then chastise them for getting hurt due to its lack. (If you did, you’d get fired. Not called out in the community, not written about in vague posts that hide your identity, outright fired for negligence and ineptitude as an educator.) You have the same onus of responsibility as a hypnotist to a new subject.  (And spoiler alert part 3 – you have the same responsibility to ANY subject. Because even an empowered subject is putting themselves in a position of vulnerability.)

Salvaging a negative hypnotic experience as an empowered subject is often about rescuing yourself from an unwanted situation, not preventing that situation. Prevention lies in the collaborative process of conversation and negotiation with the hypnotist pre-trance, and if that hypnotist is: unwilling to recognize that they are capable of making mistakes, someone who actively seeks out inexperienced people for predatory purposes, or someone who is unwilling to take responsibility for their mistakes then there’s not enough pretalk in the world to ensure a safe trance experience.

You are responsible for preparing, to the best of your ability, for your own safety, but ultimately the responsibility for your mind lies with both you and your hypnotist, and anyone who says differently is probably not someone with whom you should be playing.

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