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for those of you who need to hear it: processing your trauma takes time. you can't force yourself to "get over" something overnight, and you can't will healing into existence. that can be so so frustrating, but being hard on yourself isn't going to help the process: giving yourself time and space and forgiveness is.
FAB FRIDAYS | a writeblr event for everyone!
Hey writing community! It’s Friday! Time to share your favorite thing about your WIP and spread some writing joy! Any and ALL forms of writing are welcome in this event, including: fanfiction, non-fiction, poetry, picture books, and lit fic! So don’t count yourself out and come join the fun!
How Does It Work?
All you have to do is jump in my inbox/submissions and send something about your WIP that you’re proud of! This can include (but is not limited to!):
A phrase/sentence/excerpt that you especially like
A character you LOVE
Your favorite worldbuilding element
OC art
Maps you made of your WIP world
A good long gush about your WIP!
If it pertains to your WIP, send it in! I’d love to see/hear it!
If you DON’T want your post public, but you still want a boost, you are still very welcome to send your WIP goodies my way! Just let me know you prefer no publishing and I’ll respond privately :)
Tips & Tricks for a Fun Fab Friday
Fab Fridays are only the tip of the iceberg! Use the event as a stepping stone to launch yourself into more writeblr fun into the weekend and beyond! Here are a few tips and tricks to keep the party going:
Comment on other authors’ goodies and give them a confidence boost!
If the author’s inbox is open, feel free to jump over to their blog and send them a message, asking about their WIP!
Find and follow new writeblr accounts to welcome them to the writing community!
Ask an author if you can make fanart of their OCs!
Invite authors to your writing groups/discords/events that you think they might be interested in based off of their WIPs!
Above all, say something awesome about a writer’s WIP and let’s have some fun!
Happy Friday and happy writing!
Accidentally annoying someone doesn't make you a horrible person and you don't have to spend your whole life censoring yourself to prevent it from ever happening.
Everything worth doing, is worth doing badly. It is not wasted time or failing, it’s learning.

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When you feel overwhelmed – it’s a sign that you need to to take a break, make more time for self-care, or change up the way you’re tackling your responsibilities.
When you feel depressed – it’s a sign that you’re in a situation that feels hopeless and you’re lacking in the resources necessary to successfully navigate your struggle and feel in control of your environment.
When you’re still having a reaction to something upsetting that happened a long time ago – it means that you need to do more work processing that trauma/ struggle and that you need more effective coping mechanisms.
When you feel anxious about something – it means you haven’t yet acquired the experience and evidence necessary to show you that you can do this thing and be okay. It DOESN’T mean you’ll never get that evidence or that you’ll struggle forever - just that this is where you are right now.
You don’t need to beat yourself up. And you don’t have to feel ashamed. You just have listen. Listen to what your body is telling you and use that information to help you grow and navigate the world in a way that feels best FOR YOU.
You aren’t failing and you aren’t inadequate - you’re just collecting information. Your information is allowed to look different than other people’s. No matter what anyone else feels, your emotions are important and your experience is valid.
I hope you’re having a good day! 😊💕
Thanks 😊 You too! Finally reading never fade and it’s opening scene was a killer way to start a book. Going slow but it’s super good! :D
a whole bunch of links for a bad day
serotonin
2048
control the weather (flash warning)
spend bill gates’ money
read a book
write without distractions
snickerdoodle mug cakes
recipes for when you’re low on spoons
khan academy
an aggressive reminder
1000 awesome everyday things
make a picrew of a worm on a string
bongo cat
useless websites
emergency compliments
a nice uquiz
more useless websites
sketch comedy
sculpt something
guess google searches
white noise
rain
customizable
coffee shop
thunderstorm + fireplace
rain on a tin roof
rain + traffic
train sounds
a fan
catharsis
scream into the void
cut your screen (trigger warning)
break glass
self-care
inexpensive self-care
small acts of self-care
develop a self-care plan
do nothing for two minutes
cope with:
common sleep problems (+solutions)
nightmares
stress
stress 2
are you stressed or depressed?
homework stress
an eating disorder
things to do instead of harming yourself
trauma
anger
worrying
grief
a breakup
the suicide of a loved one
bullying
is this relationship harmful?
sexual assault
obsessive-compulsive disorder
obsessive-compulsive disorder 2
suicidal thoughts
help
a whole bunch of hotlines
more hotlines
suicide hotlines
talk to someone
active positivity blogs
@positivityreblogs
@positivitie
@recoverystuff
@survivor-positivity
@ocdiscourse
@positivelypastelpink
@positiveautistic
@mental–healthawareness
@slfcare
@traumasurvivors
@softheartedsuggestion
remember:
drink some water
eat something if you haven’t in a while
take a break
sleep if you need to
you’re doing amazing i love you

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How you cope is nobody else’s business or job to assess as either healthy or not. If it allows you to let go you find catharsis other ways couldn’t, then its working. It’s alright it doesn’t work for everybody.
Is it normal to send anon asks to mutuals asking questions about you to see their real opinion of you or do I just have too much anxiety?
Like one time I sent in an anonymous ask misgendering myself to see if my mutual would correct the anon on my pronouns. The mutual did correct the anon and it made me very happy but that happened a few months ago and I’m still sending in anon asks occasionally to both that mutual and others to see if they’d badmouth me or just not stand up for me behind my back.
I don’t think it’s that abnormal when you have high levels of anxiety, however I do think it’s not very healthy to be constantly testing your friend’s loyalty to you because of fear of being “betrayed”.
I’m not a therapist or anything, so take this as a grain of salt, but do you think that how they talk with you and what they say, isn’t their real, honest way of seeing you? I understand being respectful towards strangers or people you hate or barely can stand to keep peace, but, those friends have given you a reason to make you that distrustful of the way which they interact with you?
I think it would be important to be honest and evaluate if you’re not fearful of something your anxiety is whispering to you without anything to sustain it. And if there is, to open up communication about it with them.
This is an invitation to treat YOURSELF kindly today!
Ahhh, busted! I will try to, anon. Thank you 😊
This is an invitation to treat yourself kindly today 💌
You are such a precious person I swear ❤️❤️ I'm really struggling to do it today. It's been hard not to spiral into despair lately lmao :')
Pls accept this photo set of Michi being beyond the fifth dream to lift up your spirits.
Ooooh 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 Michi is adorableee ,🥺🥺🥰
Let me return the favor
KITTY!!!
This is an invitation to treat yourself kindly today 💌
Invitation accepted! 😃
I went on a walk and saw some beautiful flowers and trees!
And now I finally have some time to read 😊
Did you treat yourself kindly today too dear Moya? 💜
Those are sooooooo pretty!!!
And, HMMMM....
The law requires me to answer yes.
Have more flowers please Moya...

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Maybe this is not the place to talk about it, but sometimes in a relationship that ends, it’s not because you or them were toxic to each other. Sometimes everything is well and then one acts out of concern and says things that may not be the thing that the other wants to hear, but might need to.
Unconditional love doesn’t mean to never question or disagree.
The lesson to learn on this, is that sometimes, people want a blind follower and supporter instead of a friend. When they show you which they want you to be, be wise and consider which path means you will also have a friend and which a leader to follow.
Types of whumpees!
categorized by behavior
some of these might be a bit similar to each other, but I had fun making this list
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defiant + broken
o doesn’t want to give in, show they’re in pain, give whumper the satisfaction, but is slowly being broken down and losing their will, their pride, their everything and flinches any time a hand is raised or at the slightest show of violence, though still fights and thrashes at every opportunity
cinnamon roll
o the innocent pure bean that never did anything wrong, and is now reduced to a crying, pleading, begging mess
completely unprepared
o similar to cinnamon roll, but not exactly, depending on personality. someone who has never been hurt before and may come from a very high / prestigious position now having to deal with this new station in life, stripping them of pride and dignity and hurting them more than they ever could have imagined they would have to face
puppet
o obeys every command of the whumper in an effort to escape more pain and maybe sometimes it works…but does it really? The whumpee hates themselves for what they’re doing and others aren’t too fond of them either, though the whumper likes them for their willingness (and how easy they are to exploit)
protector
o king of self-sacrifice and the one that’s trying to hold everyone together, though they can’t let themselves show their hurts in front of the others because they feel they have to hold up that strong front, leading to them breaking down alone from both the stress and their built-up trauma
chock full of self-loathing
o what it says on the tin. feels they deserve the pain for whatever reason and is resigned, even accepting or desperate for, the stuff they go through, seeing it as almost necessary or at least, something they should be able to bear
comedian
o a bit similar to defiant if you go with a more sardonic / dark humor, but someone who copes with the pain through jokes and sarcasm, always got a quip and a one-liner to hide behind instead of revealing their true feelings
optimist
o kind of a mixture of defiant and cinnamon roll, if that makes sense. someone who wont give up hope no matter what, as a show of defiance, because even if the whumpers can make them scream and beg and plead, they try to keep their optimism as the one last thing that’s truly theirs…but even that is starting to crack.
worshipper
o someone who is so brainwashed and broken they worship their whumper, they believe the pain is necessary and that it is making them better, or that it is something special only for them
obedient + terrified
o a whumpee that obeys every command of the whumper’s to escape more pain, perhaps because of conditioning that tells them they must obey or be punished
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Feel free to add on to the list if you can think of any more!
Oh I loved reading this, here are a few more:
the freezer
a whumpee who’s coping mechanism is to shut down and d*ssocite when in too much stress or pain, so they just go deep into their mind and leave the whumper with a non-reactive (or sometimes, mindlessly obedient) shell
defiant + freeze
a whumpee who is spitting mad and uncooperative, right up until that tipping point where the pain is finally too much. then they shut down and go completely internal, every farce of anger falling away
playing the long game
this is the whumpee that has a lot of endurance, and knows that, no matter how angry they are, being overtly defiant isn’t worth the extra pain it’ll bring. they know that when they break down and start crying or begging it isn’t their fault—dignity buys them nothing, here. but when it’s over and the next day comes, their mind is back in one piece
the escaper
no matter how bad things get, they never stop looking for a chance to get away. after all that hope that they’ll find a way out is the only thing they’ve got left
the button-pusher
specifically the type who will take one look at their fellow whumpee(s), set their jaw, and then purposely make as much of an ass of themselves toward the whumper as they can. all in the hopes of getting the whumper’s anger directed toward them alone, in order to keep the others safe and give them time to recover
defiant + terrified
their anger, snappishness, and fight is how they choose to hide the fact that, beneath that front, they’re so terrified they can scarcely breathe
the reasoner
obsessed with following/intuiting rules in an attempt to keep themselves safe. they also might be the type to try to bargain with the whumper, and will usually react one of two ways if the whumper doesn’t follow their word: justified anger, or self-blame (“I must have deserved this”)
the guard dog
the classic angry caretaker-turned-whumpee, who isn’t going to let anyone anywhere near their fellow whumpee
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