it's something we think a lot about, this fact that the world just really doesn't accommodate for people that aren't Women or Men. there's an interview with sam smith (i think???) where they mention something about how they've just had to accept that people will always misgender them at first until corrected. and for us, even surrounded by people who care in a relatively safe environment, it still happens. we're used to it, but over and over, there's that assumption. if you're trans, you're the "opposite" of what you were assigned at birth. or you're basically just cisgender with a fun dash of side pronouns.
and, hell, sometimes we wish we were just a girl, just a guy, that we had a simple answer. that we didn't have to constantly be reminded that people will always see us as something we're not. that the answer was clear for us in how to navigate the world, legal/political hell aside.
and yet, even in good times, the concept of a gender neutral bathroom is still a punchline.