Finding My Way

If you find yourself stalking a guy's Tumblr, enthralled with the images he paints in your head of what he would do to you, ask yourself this before you ever hit the DM button or respond.

Would I be okay if I wasn't the only one with his attention?

Am I willing to accept that he might only be in this to get my nudes and never hear from him again?

Is this person safe and genuine?

Why am I honestly at this point? Do I seek attention, mutual attraction, or something else?

Am I taking proper precautions to ensure that I'm not only safe online but that I'll be safe with them?

What am I hoping to get from this interaction?

What are my boundaries and limits for what I am willing to do with this person? Write them down to remember what you set limits on when you're caught up in the moment.

There are a lot of really crappy guys and a lot of creeps out there, ladies. Do yourself a favor and think before you hit respond or get in his inbox.

Someone's Tumblr is the picture they paint and may not accurately reflect the kind of person they are. People have gotten really good at hiding their true identity here, where they can hide behind a username and anonymous photo.

You swallow your words until silence is all you know.