Positivity

for everyone who feels that they aren’t getting better or are stuck at their lowest: you will not be here forever. keep going for the time you will feel better than this

if you genuinely believe everyone else is loved, how come you don’t believe it about yourself? you’re included in everyone too! i know it’s harder to accept yourself as loved and cared about than it is to accept that other people are loved, but that doesn’t make it any less true. your brain is lying to you. no matter what, you are loved. you are cared about. you are important. you have value.

Remember, every time you are so unapologetically yourself you are showing someone else they can have the courage to do the same.

It’s okay if you can’t relate to the posts saying that you are capable of doing whatever you put your mind to. It’s okay to not be capable. It’s okay to need help with things.

remember to listen to yourself. if you’re exhausted and don’t have the energy to commit to plans, it’s okay to say no. if you’re feeling like total crap and just can’t motivate yourself to be productive; rest! it’s okay to say no to things you’re not up to and set limits and let yourself have a break from it all, you deserve it.

Sometimes you don’t start your day until 2pm. Sometimes you have to put on a pair of jeans and a nice shirt instead of sweatpants in order to feel good about yourself. Sometimes it’s really fucking hard to get up and take a shower or brush your teeth. Sometimes it’s really fucking hard to take care of yourself and it’s okay. That is okay. Simple things aren’t always easy and simple things being hard doesn’t make you weak, you are doing the best you can and some days there are things you just can’t do and that’s okay. You are healing. You are trying. Do what you need to do to feel good.

you will find your home, you will find your place. you will find your people. give it a little bit of time but it will happen.

Remember that you still have time. You still have time to get better, to do the things that make you happy, to do the things you dream of. Just remember you still have time ahead of you.

In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. Give them space. My friend always told me about his grandfather who was with his wife for 60 years before she passed. His grandfather said that through all that time, his wife changed so much it felt like he had been with 8 different people by the end. But he said the secret to making it last was that through all those changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be. Rather he loved, fully, every new woman she became.