i think the black and white thinking of the system community, especially around taboo topics involving trauma and such, is one of the main reasons why systems become radqueers.
here's an example: let's say there's a system, jimbob system. and they desire to have more trauma.
this is a perfectly normal thing to desire, even though the concept of that desire is taboo. it's common especially among trauma survivors who were manipulated into believing their trauma wasn't that bad.
there's group A, the average system community. if the jimbob system voices how they feel, the jimbob system is likely to be met with hostility and social ostracization. if not downright fakeclaiming the jimbob system.
then there's group B, the radqueers. radqueers pride themselves on radical acceptance. so, if jimbob system tells such desires to the radqueers, those radqueers are likely to accept jimbob system with open arms and no questions asked. they might even suggest the label of "transtrauma" a label where it can be used to conveniently find other people who feel like the jimbob system.
now let's say the jimbob system encounters group A first, and then group B. group B, the radqueers, are more than willing to provide comfort and share their own stories of social ostracization. they bond with jimbob system and do not judge jimbob system.
and again, please remember that wanting trauma is a very normal response in a lot of trauma survivors.
the point of this post is to directly criticize the system community, absolutely. the way i've seen systems handle these taboo topics, i really don't agree with. i do believe that how it's currently handled leads people to becoming radqueers. everyone desires social acceptance, especially social acceptance of such vulnerable things.
i could go on about how for the jimbob system, they could be manipulated into doing worse things. but that's more focused on radqueers, and i'm criticizing the system community right now.
in conclusion: the way the system community handles taboo topics is done very poorly and leads to people seeking acceptance from risky groups. i think there should be change in how the system community handles taboo topics, such as wanting more trauma.
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