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“Prioridating” and How It Can Help You Find Long-Term Love

Have you ever been in a relationship where you thought you were in for the long run but you get to know them and discover traits that you can’t put up with? Have you tried many dating techniques and they’ve all proved abortive? Then you need to try “Prioridating”.

“Prioridating” is a lowkey dating technique that’s quite promising. It is a technique that’s guaranteed to land you a long-lasting relationship. This dating technique was created by Laurel House, a relationship expert at eHarmony.

What is Prioridating?

According to Laurel House, Prioridating is “dating on purpose, the purpose being to find someone who fulfils the one most important thing you need in a relationship”.

Many times, we have all these superficial things we desire in our partner, we want them to have perfect legs, toned bodies and even a jawline to die for. It’s not wrong to want these things but they shouldn’t take the place of values that can help sustain your relationship.

Prioridating is realizing that you want more from a potential partner outside their physical attributes. To prioridate is to go after values or attributes that are non-negotiable to you in a relationship and only set out to date people who have these values.

Instead of looking out for someone that ticks off of all the vanities you want in a man, why not look out for someone who offers the things you cherish most in a relationship?

How to Start Prioridating

You can’t prioridate without knowing what you desire most in your relationship. To know these needs, you have to consciously decide which values and character traits you want in a partner. Think about all the times you’ve experienced pure joy and happiness, what activities make you feel in touch with yourself, when have you felt the safest and most at peace?

What’s that thing that will give you satisfaction in a partner? These needs differs from one person to another which is why you shouldn’t just choose a value or need because everyone is after that. For some people, these needs can be physical, emotional or financial.

Your values have to reflect in your conversations, thought process, actions and your attitude. Remember you only attract traits you exude. Laurel House says “align with that value in all ways”.

You should reflect those traits you desire in a partner in how you talk, what you say, the types of dating apps you use and even your future expectations.

How Prioridating Can Help You Find Long-Term Love

Bear in mind that you can date for a long time and still date for all the wrong reasons. However, when you prioridate, you are dating with intentions and working towards a goal with your intended partner.

Now that we know what prioridating is and how to go about it, let’s take a look at how it can help you secure the long-term relationship you desire.

Perks of Prioridating

When you start putting your priorities first you’ll notice a drastic change in your relationship and the connections you make in the process of building your relationship(s). Here are the advantages of prioridating:

It Helps You Make Genuine Connections

According to Jelena Kecmanovic for the Washington Post, it's most effective to be your honest self when dating online. The process of realising your core values brings a lot of self-awareness which helps you to correctly identify and clearly communicate who you are.

By having a clear understanding of your needs in a relationship, prioridating helps you uncover truths about yourself and effectively align your emotional necessities. If your partner is also open about communicating their core values, it could help you forge meaningful and long-lasting connections over time.

It Improves Communication

The gradual process of self-realisation once you start putting your priorities first helps you to know what you want, how you wish to be treated and effectively communicate that to a potential love interest. This way, you are clear about your needs and there’s no confusion about what you desire in a partner.

It encourages Intentionality

Meeting a partner whose priorities align with yours or is ready to give you what you desire takes a lot of intentionality on their part. This means that while they are meeting your needs and making you happy, you are also doing the same for them. Afterall, prioridating is about making sure your deepest desires/needs in a partner are met.

It Shows That You Are Self-Aware

As you learn more about yourself, you are able to show those you come across who you really are and all the unique traits that make up your person. This tells whoever you are communicating with that you aren’t just blabbing and chasing fantasies. Rather, you come off as someone who has a sense of security, knows what they want and will go after it.

Prioridating is not Settling

At this point, you are probably wondering if you should give this a try but you also don’t want to discard all the must-haves you have on your bucket list.

You need to know that prioridating is very different from settling. When prioridating, you are simply making sure that you are only devoting time and energy towards things that really matters. Once you identify your most important needs, you can align all other things with that.

Summary

Prioridating helps you address your deeply rooted needs and also create meaningful and intentional connections or relationships instead of just dating anyone you’re attracted to.

Although, you shouldn’t just date people because they fulfil one need, they should be willing to constantly evolve and be open to learning. The willingness to learn and evolve with your partner is one that is paramount for the success of any relationship.