CD ALondron

Does your wife trust that you are not cheating on her when she is not with you?

I think a lot of you men treat being locked like it's some kind of game. Or that there's something wrong with some of you that you can't just... not play with yourselves or something like you're still a 14 year old.

My husband tells me when he removes his cage for the doctor or when he's traveling. Or sometimes if he thinks he needs to take it off when he's going for a really long bike ride.

Sure, he could get the spare key and unlock his cage anytime he wants.

If you are in a relationship you have to have some trust and that means you also have to be trustworthy. I can trust that he will lock back up when he gets to where he's flying to. I can trust that he will lock up after seeing the doctor. And I trust that he is not sneaking the key to play with himself when I'm not around.

This is not some game that we play. Yes we have fun, but my control over his being locked and his coming is just such a basic part of our relationship now that questions like this are just ridiculous to us.