I hate the way hookup culture has evolved so that people seem to think emotional connections aren’t cool, and that caring deeply is a flaw. It’s all about being free and open and DTF as an expression of sexual empowerment. And while there’s nothing inherently wrong with that, and I respect the place of casual hook ups in the over-arching sexual narrative, I honestly find it so… boring?
Like, I am absolutely voracious for experiences. I want to devour your life story over cocktails in the dark corner at the back of the bar and learn about all of the nooks and crannies in your brain and geek out over things we both love and get inspired to learn new things because I enjoy hearing you talk about your passions. I want to share all of my best stories with you, because you’ve never heard them before, and spill out all of the thoughts bubbling over in my brain and talk too much with my hands and probably knock over my wine glass because I’m not paying attention and then stay out too late and kiss passionately against a wall on the way home and have sex knowing all of these amazing new things about each other and the ways we fit together and the ways we don’t quite fit, but that’s fine too, because imperfect things are more interesting and tension is important for growth, and aren’t we trying to grow and learn and experience things together? I want to have crazy, messy, rough, tender, weird, funny, sex with you and then stay up and get midnight snacks. And then after we’ve been up way, way too late, I want to stand in rumpled clothes outside the train station for twenty minutes because we can’t stop talking to each other, and text with you all day the next day and smile at our phones and feel calm and happy even though we’re dying of sleep deprivation. I want to be excited to see you next time and do it all over again.
I guess I’m spoiled. I’ve had enough casual sex in my life that the novelty has sort of worn off. Attention from near-strangers isn’t titilating, it just bores me. Getting to KNOW SOMEONE is so much better. Caring is so much more satisfying.
It’s so sad when people think that the most interesting thing about each other is their genitals. (It’s even sadder when they’re right.)
Apathy is a slow, boring non-existence. I’m over it. Don’t flirt with me unless you’re willing to care.
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