got asked to prom today and said yes
it’s kinda interesting do a few reasons:
This guy has wanted to ask me to a school dance for years, like last year he chickened out of asking me to homecoming (I could tell, he wasn’t slick about it), and then like a month ago he chickened out of asking me to prom. I guess today was the perfect day for it, and like, the situation was truly ideal tbh. We were in his car and I was sunset and he’d just won a baseball game (hes the team captain because of fucking course) and I kinda just agreed to it despite
I’m like, super gay and he knows this. It was a whole thing our freshman year, like I’d sent him some articles about my specific orientation and expected him to understand that IM NOT ATTRACTED TO MEN, and then I dropped that in passing like 6 months later and he was completely shocked because he hadn’t read the articles because it was too much work (they were so short I can’t even describe it)
Now I have to explain and justify my decision to all of my friends (who don’t like this guy at all) and I feel like this probably set me back like at least 3 months character development wise in the eyes of my friends
I do think it’ll be fun but also I can’t call it off because this guy and I are about to leave for a week long school trip literally tomorrow
This is not the jock dude from previous posts Ive made. Previous guy is super gay also, so I’m worried about what he’ll think about this.
late update:
I called it off. During our week long school field trip. He said that he knew I was asexual, but that he didn't know if I was aromantic (I explicitly told him I was but whatever), and he said that I was the only person he'd want to go to prom with, even as friends (I declined that because I still wasn't super comfortable with that idea either tbh). Honestly, he took it better than I thought he would. Then, when we got back to school like two weeks later (spring break), everyone ended up hearing the story but everyone was on my side. I still feel a little bad about it but I'm pretty sure it's just one of those things in life that suck, you know? like he likes me but I can't like him, at least not how he wants me to. Prom was a few months ago, and we ended up going as parts of the same friend group but it wasn't that awkward because we didn't take any photos together that weren't group photos and we drove in different cars. I had a really fun time, and honestly it wasn't as bad as I thought it'd be. I mostly just hung around our other friends and because I don't dance but he does we stayed pretty separate. Most people have forgotten it, but the whole incident is the butt of a few jokes per week, like "oh (the boy) doesn't pull, we all know that" (and whoever said that will wink at me). I usually let it slide, but if I'm peeved that day I'll shut it down and I'm intimidating enough socially that it works. Anyway, life lesson: if you're in a (safe) position to say no to a date, do so!! let them down now!!!!! also make sure people know when you come out and don't let them be confused to the point that they fall in love with you for 3 years even though you can't love them back :)
