hope is like the sun

#almost did not include the molly one but you know what i AM that petty. and i’m also right!#anyways. sirius advocating for harry’s autonomy in the exact ways it’s been taken away from him all his life#i love sirius being all ‘i’m surprised at you! i thought asking questions is the first thing you’d do!’#and it was. harry’s like ‘i DID i shouted at my friends in caps lock for several minutes but they said we weren’t allowed in the order ugh’#harry’s clearly hesitant to speak up for his wishes in the presence of several adults / authority figures#but he doesn’t even have to SAY anything because sirius knows him so well that he brings it up for him#also it adds a whole other layer to petunia’s words when the howler’s from dumbledore#and it’s dumbles continuously working /with/ the dursleys to keep harry locked up and starved of information [original post tags from snufflesirius]

if only lesbian lust paid the bills

here’s my pitch for next doctor who. budget of 5 cents and a dream. a female doctor with female companions and a female master. they will all get horrendously gay for each other. we will make 5 billion dollars. bbc please hire me.

If Robby would just go to therapy and bury his face in Abbot's tits with some regularity I think he'd be substantially less fucked up all the time.

Dr Robby being deeply connected to his Judaism but saying he’s not sure if he believes in god. Someone in that writers room is a Jew because that’s like most of the Jews I know. Robby wears his Jewish star every day and uses the shema like a mantra to calm his panic attacks and he 100% is Jewish and loves being Jewish and believes in what Jews stand for - most importantly taking part in tikkun olam and saving lives because he knows that every human life is its own world and saving one is like saving the whole world. I literally cannot describe enough how central being Jewish is to Dr Robby’s character he is so special to me. This is what we need. No more money hungry shylocks or neurotic nebishy Howard wolowitz-esque characters. Just real people who are Jewish and whose Judaism informs the way they see the world and how they act. Dr Robby, or should I say DR MICHAEL ROBINAVITCH, is the hero of this show and he’s jewish and it’s not in spite of but BECAUSE OF his Judaism that he is the heroic ER doctor that he is.

so so often tumblr discourse around mental health/trauma/self-harm cannot engage with the importance of agency. it just can’t balance both experiencing structural harm and causing individual harm and gets stuck on a fixed state of victimhood. you’re not responsible for the harm you’ve experienced or the ways it still makes you feel unsafe but you are responsible for the actions you take because of it and their impact on other people. if you learnt at one point that it’s not safe to say no and you’re then later in a relationship where it is safe to say no and you still say yes, you’re hurting the person you’re lying to as well as hurting yourself. that hurt isn’t negated because someone else made you feel unsafe and you have a responsibility to learn that you are now safe if you’re asking that person to trust you. you have a responsibility to deal with the things that lead you to hurt other people. even when other people have hurt you too, even when you’ve been made to feel ashamed for it, even when dealing with it is uncomfortable. even when other people took your agency in the past. you do have agency now. refusing to use it and hurting other people as a result is not a passive decision happening to you, it’s an active one you are making

also somebody being upset or disappointed by you honestly saying no does not automatically mean the situation is unsafe. people can feel valid, negative emotions in response to your decisions as part of a safe relationship. they can respect your boundaries and also be disappointed. you have got to learn that other people being justifiably upset when you say no doesn’t mean they’re a bad person or that you’re a bad person. they are just experiencing emotions. and you still have to be able to say no

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

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