hii!! i go by val on here n pretty much exclusively go by they/them, exception is if u know me irl (hi to all 3 of u!!)
im nonbinary, bisexual, n a vers switch, and SO good at sitting directly in the middle or outside of dichotomies.
this blog is where i post nsft pics, text posts, and sometimes lil things abt my life that im scared to post on main, including vents. u can ask 4 my main if we're mutuals btw!! most of the things i rb are queued!!
i have a kofi here and if u can afford 2 tip i would appreciate that a lot!! ;w; thank u!! (yes it is in gbp sorry for Being English crimes)
feel free to dm me but if i don't respond it's not on u!! i am not super confident and get anxious talking 2 new people
bondage
d/s
body worship
praise
light s/m (with occasional Severity i am Not Stable u know)
choking
biting/bruising/scratching
degradation
petplay
knifeplay
idk probably a few others there are no comprehensive lists
RECIEVING ONLY
dont often feel up to doing these 2 others unless they can convince me gjfjsk
cnc
somno
intoxication (mutual or recieving)
NO THANKS
DDLG/LB
foot stuff
feeder stuff directed at me (feel neutral abt this unless it's directed at me i got my annoying body stuff still 2 resolve ;Ο;)
"sissy" (let's be honest most of this kink just boils down to transmisogyny or homophobia)
detrans (specifically as a kink but if ur weird and transphobic abt having detransitioned ur not welcome here either)
standard dni criteria kinda stuff also applies, if i see you posting raceplay or if ur a "MAP" im going to splatter u up a wall u know the drill. no reactionary scum on my posts, that includes you, zionists
i post pictures of me under "my body" and "nb nsft" and either do not tag my nsft text posts (don't enjoy seeing too much of a containment breach u know how it is) or tag them with "nb nsft" or just "nsft" (tagged this post with em for ease of access too!!)
i don't currently tag vent posts but they're usually just a "." with a load of tags under it so if u see that just know that what's in the tags may be a complete fckin emotional gamble and may be depressing. sorry gkfks. if u would like something tagged lemme know!!
ty for reading all this, recognise that it's a lot but!! i appreciate it!!
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center yourself in language that includes you. if it includes women like you, it includes you. it's not "them" it's "us". women are your peers. when someone says ladies that means you. keep reminding yourself. don't forget. it is a fact. treat it like one. you HAVE to treat yourself like a woman. keep reminding yourself. keep reminding yourself.
that song is about you. that advertisement applies to you. when someone tries to lift women's self esteem it's supposed to be lifting YOUR self esteem. how many songs come on the radio telling women they're beautiful??? that's YOU. you're beautiful. take it seriously. take yourself seriously. you ARE a girl and you HAVE to act like it. if you don't treat yourself like a woman, and you ARE one, then you're not treating yourself like a person, and THAT IS SELF HARM. you HAVE to treat yourself like a girl. it isn't optional.
something cool about queering your idea of sex is that you can walk out of a heavy make out session feeling like you had the rawest sex of your life. you can be sitting close at a bar kissing them and maybe youβve found a way to sit so your knee is discreetly between their thighs and feeling the pleasure it gives them and then feeling them give that pleasure to you. you can be looking each other in the eye and you can feel them inside you from that alone. like you want to tear their clothes off and are hungry for the feeling of their skin and their closeness but even just this feels like heaven, feels connected to them in the deep place where pleasure comes from.
βWhen I was a dominatrix, I once rubbed balloons all over a man for seventy-five dollars. He wouldβve called it sex. I wouldβve called it work. It was mutually consensual, and I think we were both correct in our assessment.
If your sex is balloons, if it is blowing raspberries on your loverβs belly, if it happens fully clothed ir in furry costumes, if it happens in a group or alone β give it the same gravity, the same reverence or irreverence as all the tiresome scenes of heterosexual penetration we all grew up reading. β¦ There is no marginal erotic unless you sideline it.β
Hate that the term "post-nut clarity" gets applied to guilt and shame people feel after watching porn or having sex. These feelings aren't any more real or reasonable that the horniness was. You don't have clarity, you're just not horny anymore and grew up in a culture that told you to be ashamed of sex and masturbation.
It's also wild how often I see people talking about "post-nut clarity" when what they're describing is a drop.
It's more commonly talked about in bdsm spaces as subdrop, but you can drop as a dom or even just after vanilla sex or masturbation, especially if it was more intense than you normally experience.
A drop happens when you've been building up a lot of those feel-good chemicals in your brain during sex, then suddenly the sex is over and your brain overcompensates in trying to rebalance. You might feel depressed, anxious, regretful, ashamed. It can happen immediately after or even a few days after. This can happen even if you're normally a very sex-positive person.
It isn't post-nut clarity! You're either dealing with internalized shame towards sex in general or you're having a temporary chemical imbalance. Maybe even both! Pamper yourself after. Forgive yourself. The thoughts you're having in that moment aren't necessarily rational ones.
Be generous with yourself, do something comforting after sex - it's like a workout cooldown. Take it easy on yourself and give your brain something positive to focus on to ease into the loss of the chemical rush.
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Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
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Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
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i can't lie the amount of self-identified lesbians on here with men dni in their bio and a blog full of pictures of trans men does make me feel a bit insane. be fucking normal.
