Lead Fi (4D - EII, Valued) vs. Fi Mobilizing (2D - SLI), Valued
I think the easiest way to tell these two apart is to look at their confidence level regarding emotions and relationships. Both EIIs and SLIs tend to have intense emotions that they do not show outwardly. They are both very aware of how they feel about things and people, but the biggest difference here is that SLIs will usually not know what to do about their feelings and may be afraid of them, while EIIs are more comfortable with their emotions and are more confident to act on them.
For example, when romantically interested in someone, both EIIs and SLIs may spend a long time observing the person without giving away how they feel. The EII, however, can intuitively sense when and how to act on those feelings. The SLI, in contrast, will be much more hesitant and can spend months or even years contemplating what to do before actually taking any action. Beskova explains this SLI trait quite well, stating that the SLI âis capable of falling in love from a distance, only by eyes, observing the person who randomly captured his heart for a long time. In this case, being a contemplator by his nature, he can spend months and even years in this state and not take any action.â
While EIIs can detect how a person feels about them fairly easily, SLIs will be far more uncertain and afraid of being emotionally exposed (due to Fe as vulnerable function). SLIs (and ILIs) have Fi in the position of the mobilizing/activating function, also known as the âhidden agendaâ. Â There is a fear of âfailingâ at the mobilizing function, so types with Fi in the activating position tend to keep their feelings secret at first (also due to Fe-polr) and it may take a very long time for them to take any initiative towards establishing a relationship.
With weak intuition and weak ethics, the SLI is not confident in the realm of emotions, and âhis understanding of relationships is poorâ (Beskova). Establishing a close relationship with an SLI is usually no easy task, even for Delta NFs. They tend to be afraid of becoming emotionally vulnerable (Fe-polr). And even if they realize that the person they like is interested in return, they may still be uncertain of what to do next, or afraid of taking the next steps to establish an actual relationship. SLIs tend to fear clearly defined relationships (Stratiyevskaya) and can try to blur the boundaries in various ways, such as disappearing at times. In contrast, EIIs are more confident in discerning another personâs motivations and feelings, and are also more likely to take a risk to establish a relationship than the SLI (though even for EIIs, this may still take a very long time, due to introversion).
Creative Ne (3D - EII, Valued) vs. Ne Suggestive (1D - SLI, Valued)
SLIs tend to be stable, routine-oriented people who greatly appreciate the introduction of new, strange, and unusual ideas. Â They tend to be attracted to the mysterious and unique. Â The supernatural world, miracles, and unnatural phenomenon all tend to be of interest to them, though they have trouble discovering these things for themselves. They appreciate creativity but can have trouble innovating on their own. Â They can struggle with seeing opportunities and with thinking âoutside the boxâ. Â As a result, they may limit themselves to following conventional paths. Â They can also struggle with understanding the motivations of other people, and highly respect those who can understand and explain these things to them. Â
In contrast, EIIs tend to be highly imaginative and skilled at discerning the motivations and intentions of others. Â Unlike the conventional SLI, they (like IEEs) may come across as somewhat eccentric due to their unconventional thinking and interest in the unusual and strange. Â EIIs also have a strong awareness of the multiple possibilities and opportunities available to them, and can use these to their advantage.
Role Ti (2D - EII, Unvalued) vs. Demonstrative Ti (4D - SLI, Unvalued)
EIIs, with Ti as a role function, strive to come across as rational and level-headed. Â They are analytical and enjoy explaining their insights about people and relationships (especially in writing). Â They can write in a scholarly and academic way, however, they tend to struggle with writing concisely, and may include a lot of unnecessary details in their explanations. Â Though skilled at analysis of people, they may struggle with scientific analysis in fields such as math and science and when dealing with impersonal, objective data. Â
In contrast, SLIs can be skilled in analysis in scientific fields and easily interpret impersonal data, but struggle when it comes to understanding the inner workings of people. Â
Se Vulnerable (1D - EII, Unvalued) vs. Se Ignoring (3D - SLI, Unvalued)
Another easy way to tell these two apart is to look at their level of confidence in sensory matters. SLIs tend to be naturally athletic and in command of their bodies. They can easily excel in sports, outdoor activities, and anything requiring physical and hands-on skills. EIIs, in contrast, usually struggle with athletics and may seem to lack bodily awareness. Though they can become skilled in physical activities, it requires much more effort and does not come as naturally to them as it does for the SLI.
SLIs also tend to be very âpresentâ and aware of what is happening around them, enabling them to react quickly if needed. In contrast, EIIs can seem absent-minded and at times oblivious to the external environment (especially if intuitive subtype). The SLI has a physical confidence and ease with their bodies that the EII does not have.
The SLI will also not shy away from confrontation and conflict when it appears. Although neither SLIs nor EIIs like conflict and both of them can seem gentle, the SLI when provoked is more confrontational and aggressive than the EII. The EII may be more conflict avoidant due to fear of disrupting the harmony of a relationship, while the SLI is much less concerned with this.
Te Suggestive (1D - EII, Valued) vs. Te Creative (3D - SLI, Valued)
The EII can seem impractical at times. EIIs can struggle to find the most effective and efficient way of doing things, which causes them to waste a lot of time and effort. In contrast, SLIs are very practical people. They can easily find the fastest and best way of completing a task. They may also enjoy teaching and instructing others with how to accomplish tasks (Stratiyevskaya).
SLIs are also highly resourceful. Â This tends to make them good âsurvivalistsâ who can thrive on the bare minimum. Â They know how to locate and maximize their resources, and can get by comfortably on very little if needed. Â In contrast, EIIs lack confidence in their ability to locate and use resources effectively.
Si Mobilizing (2D - EII, Valued) vs. Si Lead (4D - SLI, Valued)
SLIs are aesthetes who have an eye for beauty. They are confident in their tastes and can effortlessly create beauty and harmony, while minimizing or eliminating anything aesthetically unpleasing. Â Contrary to what is sometimes said of them, SLIs do not dress only for comfort. Â Though comfort can be one factor, it is very important to them that they are aesthetically pleasing, and they will take care of their looks and their health to ensure that this is maintained. Â
While EIIs may also be aesthetes and greatly appreciate beauty and harmony, they are less confident in their ability to create it. Â For the EII, Si is in the mobilizing position. Â Again, skill in the areas of the mobilizing function greatly boost a personâs confidence, while failure in these areas has a devastating impact on confidence. Â This makes EIIs especially sensitive to criticism about things such as their looks, style, and health, and they fear âfailingâ in these areas. Â Their health is important to them, though they often do not know the best and most efficient way to take care of themselves and it can take them a lot of effort to do so.
SLIs are also natural caregivers who can take care not only of themselves, but also others. Â They tend to be practical and well-prepared to handle whatever their environment requires. Â For example, if going hiking in cold weather, they can be counted on to have the right gloves, the appropriate jacket, a hat, and all the needed supplies. Â In contrast, physical preparation takes much more effort for EIIs, and they are less aware of what needs to be done. Â For example, they may come underdressed in cold weather or overdressed in hot weather. Â They are less aware of the subtle internal nuances that SLIs are so attuned to.
Fe Ignoring (3D - EII, Unvalued) vs. Fe Vulnerable (1D - SLI, Unvalued)
At first glance, both EIIs and SLIs can seem stoic and both can lack emotional expression. The difference lies in the level of confidence and comfort in external emotional expression. EIIs are highly aware of the emotional environment around them, and they can participate in it if they feel like it. They would know exactly what to do to engage. However, if they do not feel like it, they will ignore it. In contrast, SLIs may lack awareness of the emotional environment. They may not know how they can participate in it, even if they wanted to. They are wary of any emotional intrusions and are often unsure of what is expected of them in emotionally vibrant situations.
SLIs are also notoriously known for âregulatingâ the emotions of others, sometimes in ways that seem harsh. For example, an SLI who feels that their partner is too emotionally attached to them may suddenly disappear on them, avoid them, or can even end the relationship for a time, until they feel the person has emotionally âcooled downâ and the SLI feels more comfortable with the level of emotions. According to Stratiyevskaya, âGabin [SLI] has his own ways of âadjustingâ the emotional impulses of a partner - he either inflames or cools him. Moreover, sometimes this is done by changing the psychological distance: Gabin seems to end his relationship with him, then, as if nothing had happened, resumes them again. Moreover, it never occurs to him that by âregulatingâ a personâs emotions in this way, he sometimes makes him suffer very muchâ. Â In this kind of behavior, the irrationality of the SLI can be seen.
In contrast, the EII is much more comfortable with emotional expression. They do not have the need to âregulateâ the emotions of others, and can handle emotionally intense situations much better than the SLI.
Ni Demonstrative (4D - EII, Unvalued) vs. Ni Role (2D - SLI, Unvalued)
Both EIIs and SLIs are contemplative types who can spend long periods of time thinking things through. Neither of them appear hurried or rushed, and they both dislike it when others try to rush or push them.
The strong background Ni of EIIs enables them to intuitively feel when the right time to act has come. Â This is especially true with regard to development of relationships. Â As a result, EIIs tend to be extremely patient. Â EIIs also tend to have the ability to predict how relationships are going to develop, and have a significant amount of insight into this.
Unlike EIIs, SLIs lack the intuitive feel for picking out the right time to act. Â As a result, they may wait a significant amount of time before taking action. Â They are not in a hurry. Â As mentioned earlier, this is especially true in the realm of relationships.
With Ni as a role function, the SLI strives to appear as an insightful and contemplative individual. Â According to Stratiyevskaya, âHe trains his intuition: he tries to predict the development of his relationship with this or that person at the earliest stage of his acquaintance with him.â However, making these kinds of predictions does not come as naturally to them as it does for the EII. Â They lack confidence in their abstractions and prefer to rely on what they can observe.