Should I?
Do it
Don’t
Context: hypothetically, let’s say a woman is in an abusive relationship, it’s mostly all emotional, mental, verbal and financial abuse. She hasn’t been allowed autonomy to make choices on her own, and hasn’t been allowed to save her own money, 99% of paychecks went to the abuser (she’d put away some money secretly to pay for creature comforts like streaming services or maybe some self care stuff that he’d have denied her access.)
The financial restrictions were never due to poverty, he made her annual salary in a month, but threw up in her face that her contributions to the household income didn’t really help that much, so she wasn’t allowed to have those things. If she made the equal amount he did and contributed the same amount, then she could enjoy those things. There was no plausible way for her to ever make that kind of money.
So, here is the do it, don’t do it thing.
A couple of years ago he wanted an electric car, but wanted the 7500 rebate applied to the purchase and he didn’t qualify, but she did. He bought the car outright (no payment) and the car was put into her name because she did qualify. It’s a 60k car.
Because of the financial restrictions she had, she hasn’t had much opportunity to really save anything to help her leave, and with the trauma she has always had a hard time even imagining herself ever getting an opportunity to leave.
The car is work around 32k traded in, and she’s considered trading in the car, buying a cheaper but more dependable car, and then taking the remaining trade in funds and the cheaper car and leaving.
Obviously there is a lot of missing context to the overall story, but just assume he’s done some pretty fucked up stuff to her over the years, though he will always deny that, and if she does take the car he could come after her in court and he could just demonize her in general to everyone for being so mean to take the car (though he can afford a new one, has a 70k car sitting unmoved for 2 years, and has a truck he could drive in an emergency and to get to work.)
