Hello

BEGONE

I think I’ve mentioned here before that I’m in the middle of moving house, I got a new job offer I had to take (my dog & ferret aren’t doing so well, I was feeling hopeless in my college course anyway & I decided to drop out so I could afford the veterinary care they’re going to need) but it’s hours away from Dublin & I don’t drive, so I’ve slowly been moving the pets down on the bus because it has sockets, so I can plug in their heat mats & keep them warm on the trip. My girlfriend is still at the old flat for now because we haven’t found new accommodation yet & most of the reptiles are at the old flat & still need care obviously. I’m staying at my parents house for now & between working full time, house hunting & travelling back & forth from Dublin to pack.

I’m so ashamed to say this, but I was so tired on the bus that I fell asleep, & Rocky was stolen from my bag. He was the only thing they took, he definitely didn’t escape as his travel container was taken too. I’m doing everything I can to get him back, but I feel so hopeless. 

I keep telling myself that even if I never see him again he’ll be resold to someone who’ll be able to take care of him. He’s not like other beardies, he needs special care. Maybe they’ll take him to a vet that will explain to them what his needs are.But I know how silly that sounds. 

People have been so kind about this, kinder than I deserve, so far 207 people have shared a facebook post about him in the hopes that someone will see someone attempting to make some quick cash off him or something gross like that & he’ll be recognised & returned to me. It’s an island, the reptile community here is pretty tight knit & Rocky has to be the only beardie in the country with a hunchback & dwarfism. So in a wierd way, maybe he’s very lucky he was born just the way he was. 

I don’t know, I just want my little Rocket goblin back

OBGYN: Yeah, you are exhibiting all the signs of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I’m so sorry.

Me: Huh? Oh, yeah. Insulin resistance, impossible weight loss, pre-disposition to type II diabetes, painful AF periods. Likelihood of bleed outs. Crap. That blows.

OBGYN: Yeah, well that too.

Me: *blinks* What?

OBGYN: Well, PCOS makes it very difficult for a woman to conceive and carry.

Me: BWHAHAHAHA. Yeah. No. No babies. Ever. Never wanted them. At all. Maternal instinct is not strong with this one. Only upside today.

OBGYN: Well then. Not exactly problem solved, but we’ll run with it.

Me: So about the MIND-SEARING PAIN and occasional HEAVY AF BLEEDING. When can we deal with that.

OBGYN: Not until you are 35.

Me: Dah fuq?

OBGYN: Not my rules. Hospitalization won’t even consider any treatment unless it’s life or death until you’re 35.

Me: Why?

OBGYN: Because you might want to have a baby.

Me: I’m 31. I didn’t want kids when I was 11, I didn’t want them at 21, and I sure as shit don’t want them now. Can’t I just sign a form that says “I don’t ever want a baby take it out, take it out now”?

OBGYN: Nope.

Me: Why?

OBGYN: Government rules. No removal of baby making parts before 35 unless your life is in immediate jeopardy.

If you’re in the US and your OBGYN says “government says no,” look for a new one because they lied to you. If your OBGYN says that “hospital says no,” look for a new one because this one doesn’t respect your bodily autonomy. It is true that most surgeons don’t like to perform hysterectomies until you’re in your late 30s at the earliest, but a respectful surgeon will listen to their patient and not just write them off. Sexism in hospitals is alive and well- and it’s not just anecdotal evidence. There’s been a history of looking at it academically/professionally since the 70s (look into Mary Halas as a good place to start if you’re curious), and it crops up all the time in articles in the Journal of Women’s Health and Women’s Health Issues, and the International Journal of Women’s Health all of which are peer-reviewed, well-respected medical journals. It’s absolutely a real thing.