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Local artist who does official Star Wars stuff???? Don’t mind if I do 👀

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Local artist who does official Star Wars stuff???? Don’t mind if I do 👀

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I exist in mostly progressive spaces. Mostly queer and trans spaces outside of work. The likelihood that someone uses my pronouns that I make aggressively clear and plain to see at any given time? I've had maybe 4 to 6 people including close friends and family members use my pronouns in my lifetime, where I have used these pronouns for over a decade.

The fact that they are neopronouns does not make me any less misgendered than if someone was not using he or she. For a span of a couple years, I gave up and added a set of binary pronouns for people to use so I would at least have control over how I was misgendered. That patently should not be the choice I should have to make. Instead I get they them most of the time which is just as misgendering/degendering as it would be if I were a binary trans person. If people don't know my pronouns? Fair enough. When I have explicitly told them to their faces what they are when they asked me and they proceeded to internalise that as "those aren't he or she, just use they"? No different than constantly calling a trans woman or man they constantly.

The idea that people should just expect to me misgendered if their pronouns are "weird" or new to someone really reads to me like someone going to a clocky binary trans woman and saying "but it's so difficult to call someone who looks like a man she and her". like the idea of respecting people's gender even if they might not look like what you expect a man/woman to look like is genuinely new to many people and will take some effort. It is treated as an expected effort to respect trans people that everyone adjusts small aspects of their cooncepption of the world around them (eg women can be x, men can look like you, etc etc). it is largely agreed upon to be a reasonable ask. The idea that that effort is just too much for people to undertake is just blatant transphobia. it shouldn't be tolerated for nonbinary people any more than binary trans people