You've got two feet. Why won't you stand for something?

its augu…….st?? tomorrW???????????

8th monTH???????? 4 ,more mont hs of 2013?????????????

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feminism “ruins” everything because it makes you think. it stops you from blindly following anything. when i see myself in the mirror and my eyes are distracted by my acne or my crooked teeth or asymmetrical eyes, my brain starts recalling The Beauty Myth or Susan Sontag’s essays on beauty in On Women. with that, i can no longer stare at myself and see genuine imperfections meant to be fixed but rather i am allowed to confront the actual reason i see these imperfections in the first place. when i find myself or others being too quick to judge a woman and ignore the man’s wrongdoings, i think of Woman Hating and acknowledge these judgements. when i habitually refer to everyone as “guys”, i think of Invisible Women and recognize the default male in my language. when i start feeling lost and am tempted to fall back into religion, i think of the excerpts i read from When God Was A Woman and remember everything “Jesus” and “God” stole from us.

When I say everything men say is a projection, I mean EVERYTHING. It's men, not women, who "try to take everything in the divorce".

@worstgirleva

Don't worry, I'm not afraid of saying it!

Transwomen DO have male privilege, and that is NOT something that they can transition out of since, you know, they will ALWAYS be male. Male socialisation is also a thing, but you're conflating it with male privilege, though they are related.

Male privilege refers to the benefits and advantages that males get just because they're male. For example, Ethel Cain is adored because he's a TIM, despite being openly racist, misogynistic, into incest, etc. No one would ever be that lenient for a woman.

Male socialisation refers to the way males are taught by family, society, media, friends, etc, to behave and think as males.

yes but it's also just using sexism against females who are easy to sideline in female first spaces. its not as if ftms are not familiar with sexism. we know this to be obviously true. we preach this every day. so why suddenly is it ok to so many to say "oh thats just sexism, shut up and listen and sit down."

when ftms speak on the ways they are targeted differently and perhaps more intensely *after* transition? its not that these subjects are not parts of sexism or sexistly fostered but by ignoring the factor that they are seen as deviating from femaleness- not female expectations or gender roles, and this being a damage to them as sexual goods- and instead saying that it is irrelevant that they identify as transgender and have transitioned is not just bad because it scares them away.

it scares them because it is sexist to them. it scares them because it is unfair to silence their female voices and expereinces with oppression. it rightfully scares them to say to TRA ftms that they are being dramatic and lying and dont understand what sexism is. it scares them because it reflects the violence they get from males. when you tell a ftm who is trying to talk about their/his sex based oppression's intersection with being seen as mutilating and tainting his sex value to males, from males, and you say "well thats not real, i know better than you about your own sex" thats sexist. in fact, one may even say that it is trans-sexist/transandrophobic the way it is sexist specifically because the female speaking is seen as more stupid and less trustworthy to talk about their female struggles because they identify as trans.

it will never be productive to silence trans identified females for any feminist. and yet it seems so many are quick to call ftms girls, females, women, sisters, and any other term they may have even said they were very uncomfortable with in the name of soldiarity that seems in fact, more like a excuse to make a female uncomfortable- but the moment its time to remember ftms are females who require the same trust and respect in their stories and violations as any other female, suddenly the aspect of them being trans identified makes them lesser. its not scaring trans men by approaching to strongly and getting startled like a wild animal- its chasing trans men off, silencing them, and seeing them as lesser females.

this kind of understanding and compassion to understand should be necessary for gender critical feminist spaces. its not just cruelty from TIMs that are transandrophobia. it is wildly free in feminist spaces that suddenly stop being feminist because they want to call a female mutilated and ugly and ruined by their own choices. its suddenly ok to not respect the way females traumatized by gender and sexism choose to identify themselves and refuse to use language designed to mark them as inferiors. nobody needs to agree that the FTM is "right" or "wrong" but i sure would have peaked sooner if even an inch more of GCs simply respected a female's right to choose what is comfortable for them, and focused their anger onto the way males force them to feel, have crafted language in sexist violence, and make life the inspiration for hell every day on females around them.

and this sexist silencing, sexist shaming, sexist humiliation, sexist desire to control female bodies, and sexist assuming is reserved for FTMs specifically. therefore, i think the concept deserves to be talked about and humored and fought against.

as a feminist i am heavily critical of transition as a treatment for dysphoria. of course i fully believe in the bodily autonomy of dysphoric adults and if you genuinely, truly believe transition is the best option for you, i believe that it's your right to do as you wish with your own body. i also firmly believe in the bettering of trans healthcare, including fully informed consent, further research on the long-term effects of cross-sex hormones on the body, doctors providing trans healthcare (especially surgeries) being held to higher standards than they are currently.

transmascs are still oppressed as females, and yes, i know exactly how visceral and uncomfortable it can be to think of yourself as female when you're dealing with dysphoria, but we do ourselves no favors by denying the reality we face. solidarity between transmascs, GNC women, and butches is how we get each other out of the utter mess we're in. we have to be able to recognize our shared experiences.