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hey!

so, if youve been looking online for info, youve probably seen a few tips floating around on how to tweak your diet to change taste. the most popular one is going to be eating a lot of fruit, because of fructose which is a sugar, & reducing animal products, mainly meat & dairy, because they supposedly make you taste sour.

theres some amount of truth in those tips - taste varies from 1 person to another & diet is a factor in that. however, most of what youll find out is nobody has been able to make massive, earthbreaking changes. its mostly just a small difference an overall taste that wont change.

what you shouldnt expect is that changing your diet or anything else is gonna make pussy not taste like pussy or cum not taste like cum. youre always going to taste human. you wont ever taste like youre leaking pure nectar down there.

generally, it may be more worth it to try and just accept that the taste is what it is, & its just natural, rather than alter your entire diet for a change that may not be worth it. a partner should expect that youre going to taste like a human being & not a fruit pie - if they dont, they probably dont know much about sex, or normal human biology. 

hey!

first of all, im really sorry for the messy start youve had with all this. it really sucks when medical information isnt communicated clearly and you end up in a situation like that.

second, im assuming youre in the us. this is pretty location-based so the answer would be different if youre elsewhere. in the us, your best bet for cheap/free std testing is probably planned parenthood.

if you have health insurance or medicaid, you can get std testing cheaper or free at a doctors office or community clinic, but if you dont, some planned parenthood clinics will base the price of std testing on your income, which means it can even be free if you dont have much to go around.

id suggest calling your local planned parenthood clinic and asking for a price on std testing based on your situation.

hope this helps!

hey! unprotected sex cannot lead to you getting an std/sti if you know for a fact that both you and your partner dont have one. 

that means that if youre in a monogamous relationship where you trust your partner isnt sleeping with anyone else and youve both been tested for sti/stds, or if you the person youre having sex with and yourself only have sex with people who also test for stds/stis and you get tested regularly yourself, you could safely consider unprotected sex. 

note that some std/stis can not show up on tests for a while after exposure - up to 3 months, which means if you or your partner have been tested after possible exposure but it hasn’t been 3 months yet, you dont actually know for a fact that you dont have an std/sti. here are two posts that explain a bit more about std testing and incubation periods.

if you dont know whether you or your sexual partner has an sti/std then no, any kind of unprotected sex (anal or otherwise) isnt safe on that regard. 

as far as pregnancy risk, its possible to get pregnant from unprotected anal sex, though its really rare: this would come from sperm coming in contact with the vagina even if you havent done vaginal penetration.

hope this helps!

I think I figured it out-- doesnt tumblr delete asks with urls in them? In my ask, I linked to two websites that sell dilator kits, vaginismusorg and vuvutech!!

Vaginismus can be result of prior trauma, but generally is a fear of vaginal penetration (causing muscle spasm => causing pain). If you want to be able to use tampons (it seems your are disinterested in sex) it usually involves medical procedurces, that you may or my not have access to. Masturbation doesn't have to be penetrative so you have options. Trust issues can also trigger vaginismus and trauma can cause trust issues so it's hard to say where it orginates.

Additionally, fuck those people. That line of thinking: pressuring people to have kids and being so sure that you'll "change your mind", is just the brutal social enforcement of the status quo. They cannot control your body or your life. if you do change your mind don't feel bad, but definitely do not change your mind for/because of anyone else.

hey!

its likely that you just went a bit hard on yourself and thats what caused the sore throat (especially if you were at it for a while or you were doing deepthroat). but its not impossible for it to be an sti. if youre worried about it, the best thing to do is to get tested either way, so youre reassured!

hey!

this isnt a dumb question at all & in fact its a very valid one because this answer isnt as simple as “yes” or “no”.

heres an article that explains it in detail (content warning: the article does gender squirting as female), but for a tl;dr: while people think squirting & vaginal ejaculation are the same thing, theyre in fact not! squirting happens in a much higher volume (enough to wet the bed), while vaginal ejaculation is a smaller volume of fluid. the liquid released when squirting does include urine, while the one released during vaginal ejaculation doesnt. 

one way or another, its not unsanitary or gross. if its a natural thing your body does when you have sex and feel good - great! just get some towels laid down on your bed & it doesnt matter at all.

Hi there ! There isn’t like a yes or no answer to this question because individuals all have different comfort levels.

Generally I’d say no, if someone is into you and wants to have sex with you, your lack of experience probably won’t be a deterrent.

The reasons someone may not want to are usually more to do with them. For example, being someone’s first time can come with a lot of pressure and expectations! Our society puts a lot of weight on “virginity” and who you “lose it” to and so some people might feel like that’s just too much pressure for them from sex - especially if it’s casual.

And yes some people may prefer someone with more experience just because they do 🤷🏻‍♀️

You’re going to have the best sex with someone who’s really excited and into having sex with you so I wouldn’t worry too much about the ones who might not want to.

hey!

so, due to incubation periods, even if you havent had sex in say a couple months, & you got tested then... you may need to re-take a test, because some stds can take up to 12 weeks to show up on tests. that means you should still aim to get tested 3 months after your last sexual contact.

if youve been tested 3 months after you last had sex & you havent had sex since, then you shouldnt need to keep testing until youre sexually active again.

(Just to clarify, none of the mods are lesbians, but we’ve asked our lesbian friends for input)

We aren’t as a blog invested in the “is x a lesbian exclusive identity” debate, so I’m afraid we can’t give you an answer to that specific question. These two posts offer a bit of an overview on the matter from someone who is a stone butch, but beyond that, nobody can really allow you to or forbid you from talking about yourself in whatever way, and we don’t have an opinion on the matter.

What I would suggest though is that calling yourself stone is very unlikely to solve the problem of your discomfort with talking about boundaries - if anything, not a lot of people know what stone means, so you’re still going to have to discuss your personal boundaries, except you’re also going to have to explain what an entire identity means.

I understand the desire to find “shortcuts” for the dreaded boundaries discussion, especially related to sex. It’s vulnerable, uncomfortable, and it opens us up to rejection in a particularly painful way. But I personally think it’s important to become at least capable of managing this discomfort - my biggest suggestion is to practice this conversation with friends, rehearse the words, or even have this talk in written form, so that you have more time to collect your thoughts. Best of luck xx

hey!

i asked my partner whos better versed in everything medical for help on this answer. here are some pointers:

- generally, you should get tested for sti/stds about every 6 months. you dont need to get tested for specific ones - you just kind of get tested for everything in one test. you get tested regardless of the type of sex you had (types of sex that arent penis in vagina sex also carry a risk of stds!), & regardless of whether you had one partner or several. 

- some viruses have an incubation period, which means after being infected with it you dont see any harmful symptoms for a period of time and then they appear later. for that reason, ideally both you & your partner(s) should get tested regularly: because if you caught anything youll want to treat it early, & because even if your partner has no symptoms you dont know if they have an sti (it could just not be showing symptoms yet). 

- vaginas are self-cleaning. you dont need to use any soaps or cleansers, just water & your fingers. however yes, peeing after sex & always using condoms is a good plan.

- if youre practicing oral sex, using mouthwash afterwards can drastically lower the risk of sti/stds.

- pay attention to your discharge. thick, white discharge is normal, unless youre experiencing itching, redness or irritation, in which case you might have a yeast infection. if its other colors like yellow or green, you could have an infection. brown discharge can happen because of irregular periods, but if its frequent, check with a doctor (it can be a sign of uterine problems).

safe sex practices dont 100% cancel the risk of sti/stds - but they do drastically lower it. most sti/stds are completely treatable, so if you keep yourself safe & get tested regularly to make sure if you do catch anything, you treat it, youll be just fine!