Young Dominant from Slovenia

Calling your faggot cocksucker names WHILE it is servicing you actually improves its self-esteem, its feeling of cocksucker self-worth, AND its performance.

I met this straight guy this summer at a birthday party of a mutual friend. We got along right away and started to hang out soon after that. He drags me to straight clubs and I play the part of his harmless wing man (not that he needs one, the guy is hot as fuck). He came to a gay party with me. He’s very aware of the way he looks and the kind of effect he has on gay guys. And he likes it. He’s the kind of straight boy to dance with you, hug you, bite your neck and then wink at you and leave.

One night we were sharing a joint at my place and I asked if he’s ever done anything with a guy. He told me that he made out with a few, mainy becuase he thinks it’s funny and also because it scores him points with both the girls and the gay boys who always wanna buy him drinks or give him drugs for free. He also said that he played with another penis before when he hooked up with a ts girl, but he was too high to get it up so they dind’t actually fuck.

Then came last week. I was not having the best day, he was bored and wanted to hang but I told him I’m not leaving my couch, so he came over. We had a few beers, smoked a bit, I told him I was super horny and he started teasing me like he always does. At one point he saw that I’m fully hard and grabbed my hard dick through my shorts for a few seconds. When he tried to take his hand away, I put mine on top of his and held it in place. He started laughing and squeezing hard saying “Oh, yeah? Is this what you want?”. I just grabbed the back of his head and kissed him. He stopped laughing. I looked him in the eye and kissed him again. He wasn’t pulling away, relaxed both his hand holding my dick and his neck. I let go of his head and asked “How do you wanna play this?”.  We started making out. It was like I was a teenager again. My heart was racing and I could tell that he’s nervous too. After about two minutes of this I pulled my dick out of my shorts and he started jerking it with one hand without me saying anything. This was my chance to get into his mouth. But it had to be his own choice, I couldn’t just tell him to suck it. So I broke the kiss, let my head fall back on the couch, closed my eyes and started moaning. I wanted him to see that he’s bringing me pleasure but I also wanted to avoid eye contact in case that would feel weird or intimidating to him. I was right, it wasn’t long before I felt his mouth on the head of my cock. Of course as soon as he did it I encouraged him with a load moan and a reassuring “Of fuck!”. The more I moaned, the more he got into it. He still used his hand and only got like 1/3 of my dick in his mouth (at most), but I’m big so it’s understandable. This went on for 5 minutes or so and then he stopped to take a sip of beer. I really wanted to say something, but I knew I should let him speak first. He was in the more vulnerable position so he needed some feeling of control. “So I guess I’m a bit of a cocksucker now” he said. I laughed, leaned in, gave him a short kiss and replied “Well, you sure smell like one”. Then we both laughed. Then we kissed again until he was breathing heavy. I then took off my shirt, he took off his. I started to take off his pants and noticed that he wasn’t really hard. He had a semi, but not hard. I asked if he’s okay, he grabbed my dick and said “Yeah, this is kinda hot”. Without saying anything I turned him around and was directing him into doggy. I felt resistance and he said “Wait”. I interrupted “Don’t worry, I won’t try to fuck you or anything, I promise”. He complied and went into doggy. And this is when I started to wat his ass like it was the best ass in the world. I don’t remember the last time I worked so hard on eating ass, I clearly wanted to impress him. And I didn’t have to wait long because in a minute he was groaning like crazy and got rock hard. Decent dick too, not as big as mine, but thick and I bet it can do a lot of damage. This went on for a bit and then he started jerking off. A minute into it he said “Fuck, I’m gonna cum”. That’s when I moaned into his ass and started jerking off as well. I moaned so loud that the vibrations on his ass made him shoot. Hearing his orgasm voice got me over the edge, I stood up and shot my load at the same time as him, all over his ass. “I came all over your couch, sorry, I tried to catch it in my hand but it shot too much and too far”, that’s the first thing he said. “That’s cool, it’s really easy to clean, you’re not the first to cum on it”. We laughed. He wanted to take a shower, I asked if I can join, he said yes. We took a shower together, I complimented him on his body and amazing ass, he said I have a huge dick and that while he got his ass rimmed before by girls, it was never anything even close to this. We got dressed, and continued to hang out like nothing happened. We said goodbye like we usually do with a hug. Today I met him for lunch, because he’s leaving town for a few weeks and he wanted to say goodbye. I asked if he feels awkward in any way about what happened. He said “Not at all! That’s one more thing I can cross off my bucket list. I knew it was gonna happen at some point. I’m glad it was with you.”

See? Dominance doesn’t always have to be rough or aggressive or involve “Suck my fucking cock, you faggot”. Sometimes knowing just how much of control to give to the other can get you pretty far. Sometimes you gotta let them make the decision. Let them come to you. Just show them the way and if you’re worth it - they’ll be glad to go on the journey. 

We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom

They ask you about your day: They show compassion and actually want to listen about how your day went

They ALWAYS want to keep fields of communication open: Whether you’re in the middle of a kinky-as-fuck scene or you two are in a heated argument, the means of communication is ALWAYS open. Once you give your safe word, IT IS DONE

Aftercare is a top priority. No matter what this is for you in particular, they put a lot of emphasis on aftercare (cuddling, movie watching, bath time, etc.)

They aren’t afraid to scold you when you actually mess up. Sometimes we fuck up, both with our dynamics or we screwed up something at work or school. Doms will scold you, put also help cheer you up and might even offer ways to make it positive

Sex might be apart of the dynamic, but it’s not the focus. I get the fact some people get involved with other BDSM partners for the sole reason of sex, but outside of those VERY SPECIFIC DYNAMICS, sex is NOT the sole focus. It might be a fun “add on”, but it’s NOT the primary objective (penetrative sex or other forms of sex acts).

They are concerned for your safety, but don’t overdo it. They want you safe, but don’t take it to the paranoid level where they need to track every little thing you do.

They respect your privacy. EVERYONE has secrets (”skeletons in your closest”), even among romantic partners who have been partners for a long time, people have stuff they just don’t feel comfortable confessing every little thing in their life. A respectful Dom understands this and doesn’t need to go spying on you or attempt to invade your privacy (track internet history, track phone usage, track where you’ve been, etc.)

They trust you. A Dom who doesn’t trust you will purposely try to fuck up the relationship/dynamic, they will show severe jealousy, and other negative aspects. A Dom that trusts you will respect YOU as a person as well as you to keep your word on different things.

When disagreements happen, they use constructive language. There is not a healthy relationship on this earth that is 100% argument/disagreement free. However, whenever these do happen, it is NOT a “me against you” style argument (”I WON THE ARGUMENT”, none of that). It is done in a way with minimal accusatory/hurtful statements

boys Bill of Rights

1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.

2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.

3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.

4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.

5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.

6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.

7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.

8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and DOMS without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.

9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.