Slobby_Thembo

Let’s say…

1 like = 100 calories per day

1 reblog = 500 calories per day

Let’s say…

1 like = 100 calories per day

1 reblog = 500 calories per day

gonna start a lil series of posts where i explain how to ruin a variety of types of men. this can also apply to women, but i'll be writing it from a w/m perspective. this is also entirely fantasy and i would not recommend using this as life advice!

if he's interested in piercings and he doesn't have them already, start recommending more facial piercings or feminine ones, like more ear piercings. recommend septum piercings specifically, telling them it looks cool or hardcore (even tho they'll just look like a cow). with enough convincing, get them to do nipple piercings, even as a joke. that way, more attention to drawn to their chest, showing everybody--publicly--how much of a slut they are

if he doesn't already have tattoos, convince him to get one. the first few can be whatever he wants, as long as he's comfortable with it. eventually convince him to get some "joke" tattoos, like a tramp stamp or something dirty. get him to get "slut" on his lower back, or "well-bred" on his chest. reduce him to livestock. even better, get him to get a crotch tattoo (succubus tattoo) or hearts around his nipples

when you go out to shows, make sure he drinks plenty of alcohol, mostly liquor (high calorie). suggest bar food if the venue has it. the more drunk he is, the more food you can convince him to eat. offer beer and wine whenever you two eat dinner, before eventually moving that time earlier and earlier. this is the easiest way to really ruin someone's physique without them realizing

ask him about his type in girls and send him porn curated to that standard. put on porn when you guys are having sex. weave porn into his life like an insidious virus, acting like you're "sex positive" or that'll it somehow improve performance in the bedroom. eventually, suggest he starts edging to boost testosterone, and slowly get him acclimated to the idea of being addicted to porn and masturbation--if he wasn't addicted already

get him into deftones. this doesn't really fit into the rest of the list, but it will make him a bottom bitch, which will help later on

most alt guys have a silly dream of getting into the music scene. convince him that this dream is definitely achievable and convince him to quit his job to pursue this dream. if he ends up failing, he'll be at the house more. if he does somehow succeed, you can do everything else on this list, but now you're at least financially successful

This kink can be really painful for all of us. I see people coming and going on a daily/weekly/monthly basis. It’s hot when I talk about it in my posts because it’s true, but it’s also painful for both parties.

All we want is to be accepted, to be loved for who we are. You might think that meeting someone with this kink will help that, and for a fraction of time, it will. But it won’t fix all of your problems, it won't fix the way you view yourself nor the way you feel about yourself having the kink.

Guys often say to me that if they had someone like me around, they would feel comfortable with fully giving into it. But meeting someone is not enough if you haven’t accepted this part of yourself first. Many of us will never accept this, because why would we? It’s bad in the end, that’s what we’ve been told since we were kids.

This can very easily compared to gay couples in the past. The hatred towards gays was so strong even when the two people found each other, the internalized homophobia ruined the relationship for them (I love how this behaviour is shown in Brokeback Mountain and I do emphatize with the character of Jack Twist haha as that’s how I feel when interacting with feedees).

The main issue with this kink is the insecurity it brings. I’ve never met anyone who would be fully okay with this part of themselves. We all struggle with internalized fatphobia. Not necessarily when it comes to being a feeder (even though there are feeders who don’t want to be seen in public with someone big), but as a feedee many of us end up feeling bad about gaining.

My best friend has been suffering with an eating disorder since she hit puberty and when she opened up to me she described it the following way - “I don't think I was ever properly cured, I did gain weight and stopped being ill, but this thing is always going to be on the back of my mind, it’ll always be something that I feel like I should aspire to. I feel like being as thin as possible is the only way to be truly fulfilled.” I’m stunned by how much this resembles what feedees have told me. Even the wording was the same.

Feederism is basically a depressive eating disorder if not done well. Or an unhealthy coping mechanism. But there are ways to make it work if you want to - you just need to understand yourself and your needs first. Many people I met are either all or nothing with the kink. But in general, you can rarely have it all.

I think that we’re all just really scared of abandonment. We’re all just insecure and want to be loved the way we are. We might not feel worthy of love because of having the kink (and not only that, everyone has loads of different insecurities!). This kink can give you the strongest feelings you’ve ever experienced, as meeting someone who shares the same mind as you is arguably one of the best things that can happen to you. We want to be special for a person and this kink gives us the means to that because we know how rare it is to find someone like that.

But unless we love ourselves first, we can never fully enjoy it. It would probably be better for all of us to never been born with this kink, but here we are. We can choose to surpress it, but I think that would be a pity considering how amazing it can be when done well. So I guess, all I can tell you is to learn to accept this within yourself and think of ways you want to engage in this kink. You’re not alone. And even though feederism is a depressive eating disorder, if you learn to love it and manage your emotions, it can allow you to have the best time.

The last thing you need to remember is that your feelings don’t come from external sources, even though it might feel like that. In the world, nothing comes with emotions, it’s us who assign the emotions to things and people.

Feederism won’t automatically make you feel better if you don’t allow it to do so.