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1.) I need the structure and rules in order to feel fulfilled.

2.) I need to have someone to care for and be valuable to

3.) I crave the intensity of D/s interactions

4.) The feeling of ownership makes me feel safe and free

5.) Having someone in my life who is willing to push my boundaries has made me a better person

6.) I need someone who craves me and wants me just as much as I do them and I have not found that in the vanilla world

7.) I need to be held accountable for my actions in a way that only a D/s relationship can provide

8.) I love having a person who will take me down dark paths of desire

9.) I have desires that require absolute trust in order to be fulfilled

10.) I crave that moment when I can finally let go and fully submit and my mind finally quiets

11.) Sometimes I just need the feelings of hands on my throat or buried in my hair and the whisper of “You are Mine” in my ear

If you’ve spent your childhood being pushed around by bullies.

If you’ve been in abusive relationships with toxic men…

…only to break up and then find yourself another toxic man to replace him.

If you’ve ever been raped or sexually abused, physically abused, mentally abused.

And because of those things, you live with a persistent, life-long depression that never seems to go away, it’s not hard to understand why. Some people change their lives. They change what they cannot accept: they end the cycle of toxic partners and abuse. They learn to change their reality and grow into fighters rather than submitters.

But that’s not you, sadly.

You can’t seem to break the cycle. You keep repeating the same mistakes, hoping for a different outcome and you might be on all kinds of meds to dull the pain. You might be seeing a therapist to work on your issues. But none of it seems to work. The cycle continues and the depression hangs on. And the men continue to be abusive.

Here’s why that happens: you don’t want it to be different. But society tells you that it has to be. The pain you feel comes from your mind’s resistance to the abuse, not from the actual abuse.

So stop it. Instead of fighting your desires for a man who treats you like dog shit, own it. You want to be hurt and you want to be bullied. So submit to it. Take the seat you know you were given, sit down, and take the abuse you know deep down you love.

Freedom in your case is not leaving the bully. Freedom in your case is allowing the bully to totally control you, make decisions for you, and do what he wants to you. You don’t want to be an alpha. You want to be completely and totally dominated and abused. And that’s okay. 

Abusers need people to abuse. Most often, they abuse those who don’t want it. Since you do want it, you are a natural fit and you belong together. The rape, the punches and kicks, the humiliation you receive has always been exactly what you wanted. All you have to do is admit it. You will find the depression will go away once you realize you living as you were meant to live.

1:  You  need to get into his head.

-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.  Use this information against him and to Your advantage.

-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly.  Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.

- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy.  Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”  

-Make him need You for everything.  Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.

- Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.

2:  Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!

- Don’t let him get away with anything!  When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.

- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

- Long term bondage

- Corner time

- Food restrictions

- Writing standards/lines\

- Write a book report or essay.

- Ground him/take away privileges.

- Wash his mouth out with soap.

- Make him do anything he hates.

- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment.  That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

3:  Routinely discipline him.  This is different than punishment.

- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.

-Humiliate him often.

- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.

- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while.  You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this.  For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run.  You will have to punish him less as a result.

- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline.  Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.

4:  On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.

- Talk sexy to him.

-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.

- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.

- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.

- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

- Make him give You orgasms.  This is different from sex.  This is a service.

- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.

- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.

- Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.

5:  Control Your own feelings of guilt.

-      Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him.  You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!

-      Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.

-      Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.

-      Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak.  You need to control that shit.

-      Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them.  Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior.  This can’t always be done by talking.  And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

-      Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs.  You are filling his needs.

-      Remember, You both need to be happy.  But happiness comes from different places for different people.  If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

-      A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.

6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.

- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.

- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.

- Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc.  In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

- Make him masturbate for You.

- Slap him in the face.

- Spit on him.

- Treat him as an inferior in public.  (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes  etc.)

- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

- Talk down to him in front of others

7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You.  Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so.  Control his workouts, diet etc.  Make sure and be realistic with this one.

- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.

- Put him on a sleeping schedule.  Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times.  The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.

- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.

- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You.  (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)

- Change their grooming habits to Your liking.

8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has.  Make sure You are at the top of that list.  One great way to do this is to deny him things.  Yep, it’s time to say “No.”  Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

- Make him show his gratitude to You often.  Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.

- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.

- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes.  (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.)  Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.

- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.  

9:  None of these actions will work without real trust.

- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.

-  If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you.  The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.

-Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something.  Follow through always.

-  When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.

- Subs need constant reassurance.  Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours.  If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape.  Giving  sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time.  If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.

-Talk to Your sub often.  Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.

- By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back.  Also, nothing he has is his forever.  You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right.  Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog.  Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned

-Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family.  Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member.  Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them.  Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.

Using and/ or owning a faggot is a completely selfish and   one-sided activity. faggots exist for the sole and exclusive use of Superior MEN. faggots exist to be exploited for a Superior MAN’s personal sake and benefits.

A faggot is not companion, friend or lover. A faggot is not a sub, boy or even a slave. A faggot is lower than a slave. A faggot never sees itself as an equal in any way. A faggot recognizes the Superior MAN’s right to use it as HIS birthright.

A faggot is an inferior life form; a male animal, a beast of burden, thing or object. It is live-stock in human form that functions, acts, performs in whatever manner is required so that the Superior MAN can enjoy an enhanced and more comfortable lifestyle.

When the Superior MAN adopts the attitude that they have taken control of a faggot so that they can take possession of male animal that can be used in any way that suits HIS needs, satisfies HIS desires, and that the faggot is not deserving of any consideration whatsoever. The faggot is a thing, an object. The faggot is like a phone, car or anything else a Superior MAN might use as HE goes about HIS life.

There are on three primary reasons to have and use a faggot :

1.   Labor – put the faggot to work. The faggot is grateful for the opportunity to do work for a Superior MAN. All the chores that take time and prevent the Superior MAN from more interesting pursuits can be done by the faggot. Cleaning, laundry, yard work etc. Does the faggot have special skills – cook, handyman, etc. – the faggot’s skills are to be used and exploited. 

2.   Sex – a faggot can be used for sexual release. The entire sexual experience with a faggot is about a Superior MAN’s sexual needs. The faggot is really no more than a hole.

3.   Torture – there is enjoyment and gratification to be found in torturing a faggot. There is something satisfying in taking deep pleasure in the faggots suffering and see it come back for more. Craving YOU even more because of the things YOU do to it.

faggots exist to be used and faggots need to be used.

The faggot faces the reality of what it is; and understands without a Superior MAN to serve it is nothing, it has no purpose, no existence, no life. On the other hand a Superior MAN can have a rich, full life without ever using or owning a faggot.

The faggot knows and accepts what it is. A faggot accepts that it is inferior. That it is nothing but an object to be used and possibly discarded. The faggot understands that if it does not serve well, if it can’t be of use in any of the three categories than it has no value, no worth to the Superior MAN.

A faggot knows true contentment and has a sense of purpose only when it is being serving, being used and controlled by a Superior MAN. 

The faggot Serves, Worships and Obeys the Superior MAN

Important to add what a faggot is not: don’t assume a fag is gay, or that gay guys are fags.  Some fags are straight (I’ve used ‘em), and lotsa gay guys aren’t fags.  Being a fag is about sexual submission, not about sexual preference.