WhereThe Sky Meets You

And what do we do when we're feeling lonely?

You know when you try to write a personal letter to someone who is important to you, but they are too close and there's not enough words to describe how you feel, so you stop. That's how I feel writing about grief. Writing about grief for me is dangerous, how do I open a door that people I loved once walked through and never returned? Because the thing about grief is, that it isn't something I can talk about conclusively. I would love to tell you that your heartache has a finish line, that eventually your mind won't sink when you remember their simile or their eyes. For the darkness that consumes you when they're gone, I can never give a solution, I can never replace their light. The truth is, the only way to heal entirely is to forget and when you are grieving, forgetting is the last thing you want to do. So this is what I can tell you: You don't have to take anyone's advice, you don't even have to take mine. Cry when you need to cry, and heal in your own time, and remember that there isn't a finish line. The goal isn't to be perfectly content without them, the goal is to take things one day at a time and remember that the gap between the two of you is only as far as it takes to reach their hand in your mind. Their smile and their laugh can always be found behind closed eyes. It's okay if my words aren't enough to fill what you're fighting, because for me - grief is the letter that I never finish writing.