Sara

“‘I’m going to speak out as often as I can, otherwise I can’t live with myself'”

““Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, he said—it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. If you have lots of people around you—perhaps even a husband or wife, or a family, or a busy workplace—but you don’t share anything that matters with them, then you’ll still be lonely.”

Know that I would have loved you for a lifetime, if only you’d let me… I would have followed you to hell and back – and I followed you to hell and I waited there for the longest time…. but now it’s time to come back.

Your value has nothing to do with whether or not someone chooses you.

I put zero weight into anyone’s opinion about me because I know exactly who I am. Can you say the same?

one day, you will realize how some people are not meant to be yours. one day, you will have to move on, and sometimes the most important thing to do in the world is to let go.

I’m haunted by all the space that I will live without you.

“Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, he said—it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. If you have lots of people around you—perhaps even a husband or wife, or a family, or a busy workplace—but you don’t share anything that matters with them, then you’ll still be lonely.

More veneration. Less denigration.

A man who isn’t into you, isn’t into you. Don’t force it —let him go.

Because no matter how much I hope and wish and pretend that you can understand, that you can love me, that you can save me, the thing is: you will not. I have never felt smaller and you will not, you cannot ever love me.

Commit to loving yourself completely. It’s the most radical thing you will do in your lifetime.

Unless you’ve personally been there, I imagine it’s something that’s difficult to stretch you mind around. It’s a position you can’t picture yourself being in and believe me if you could - you wouldn’t want to. But some people live there… in that darkness… on that knife edge (if you can call that living). But has it ever occurred to you that the reason you can’t imagine suicide ever being a viable option… the reason you can’t wrap your mind around the idea of a person wanting to choose a solution as devastatingly final as ending their life is because you’ve never really considered the kind of hell someone has to go through to arrive at that conclusion? The way you see the world – with its intoxicating highs and terrible lows and its mediocre boring ‘most of the time’ – is not how everybody experiences it. Some people have only lows. You experience life as an ever spinning ferrous wheel of emotions, but some people are hopelessly stuck at the bottom far lower than you will ever go. You think it’s a selfish option because you see a loving family, friends and lovers who will miss you if you left. You see lists of things that make life worth living but some people see a list of things they feel they’ll never be able to escape. You do not know how heavy a person’s burden is unless you’ve walked in those shoes, you do not know how dark the world looks to some people because you cannot see it with their eyes and that is why you cannot imagine a future so terrifyingly bleak and painful that you would do just about anything to get away from it; a pain so soul destroying you’d do anything not to feel it any more. You cannot know it, cannot imagine it unless you’ve been there… so don’t judge. It’s just that simple. You’re not required to fix it, you’re not even required to be supportive if you don’t want to… just be kind to people and don’t judge. If you lack the emotional depth to empathise with someone else’s pain, then at least keep your mouth closed and stop contributing to it.