Sincere Captain

CHARACTER BEING NORMAL:

Playful flirting.

Flirting that goes “nowhere,” since the muse uses their prowess to trap and trick.

Their muse saying they want/like your muse.

Their muse complimenting and coming onto your muse.

Getting rejected from advances, and BOTH muses reacting IC.

Muses that use terms of endearment like: “honey”, “baby”, “sweetie”, “kitten”, “darling”…

A sexual or flirtatious muse being sexual or flirtatious with everyone/your muse.

Any N.SFW character being N.SFW.

Communication. IE: Their mun tells you in PMs they’re 100% ok with your muse not returning feelings/attraction, and asking you to tell them when to stop.

CHARACTER ( MUN ) FORCING A SHIP:

Nonstop romantic/sexualized attention from their muse even when you told their mun: “NO.”

Telling the mun that their muse is dating/is family of their muse when you don’t even know each other, let alone never asking permission.

Hardcore Fanon or Canon shippers that believe because THEY ship “the thing,” you better too, or else no one will rp with you, so you give in ( even if you don’t ship it ) just to have rps.

Spreading foul rumors and lies about the mun who won’t ship with you in order to ruin their reputation and cancel them in the rpc because: “if I can’t have them, no one will.” 

Muns that project through their muse onto you as if it’s your responsibility to satisfy their weird personal fantasies, or else.

Sending creepy, sexual anons even though the mun never answers them, and has tried blocking you.

WHAT GETS CONFUSING:

When a muse flirts back, and acts as if they want the romantic advances of the other muse—then suddenly the mun posts passive-aggressive ooc posts on their dash about being uncomfortable with X and Z, shaming you publicly.

Dropping a ship out of nowhere, then coming back later because the mun is bored and wants the ship after all, but then drops it all over again.

Muns that don’t communicate in general; you can’t accuse people of forcing anything unless you post in your rules, or tell your partner you don’t approve of the interaction. NO ONE here is a mind-reader! 

     Normalize authors needing to clear their space.

     Normalize a role player’s fluctuating interest in topics. 

And you should, the short of it.

The long of it?

People, neurotypical and neurodivergent alike, calling out (other) disabled people for using their disability as an excuse in different scenarios.

- These are some examples I've had happen to me, people I know personally, or reliable (or as reliable as you can get online) internet persons. -

"Stop using your disability as an excuse!" When you turn down plans that will be sensory overloading.

"Stop using your disability as an excuse!" When you need something explained to you multiple times or in different ways because of auditory or comprehension issues.

"Stop using your disability as an excuse!" When you have trouble finding or holding down a solid, well paying job.

"Stop using your disability as an excuse!" When you struggle to do things that neurotypical or other people with your disability don't struggle to do.

I feel like I’m the only one who feels this way, because it’s praised so much as being such a ‘great solution’ for RPers with anxiety, but the whole softblocking trend that has popped up recently just ends up making me more anxious. If it was encouraged and pushed properly, it might be a better solution, but it kind of perpetuates the idea that there is only ONE type of anxiety, and it solves all of the issues and helps eliminate anxiety, when it’s really not a one size fits all fix like it tries to come across.

I totally get how it can and does help people with anxiety and difficulty with saying ‘no’ if they don’t feel like roleplaying, but it gets pushed so much it ends up turning more into straight up ghosting which can be extremely emotionally damaging to others with anxiety. Especially for someone like me, who is both autistic and has anxiety/depression, it has actually caused my anxiety to get so much worse, because people pretend to like me, and then without warning just softblock me without giving me any explanation. I know people don’t owe me one, and everyone is 100% entitled to make their RP experience one that feels comfortable for them, but it mostly just makes me upset because it completely glosses over that it can actually be extremely hurtful, just as much as it can be helpful. I’ve even seen lots of AGGRESSIVE posts about people having every right to softblock you without any explanation and saying stuff like how other people have NO RIGHT to be upset if they do, and like a lot of trends started with good intentions, it’s starting to become toxic, especially in certain fandoms and when pushed in aggressive ways like that.

not to b autistic about it or anything but i’ve noticed that the rpc is mostly peopled by allistics.

i’ve also noticed that when characters are autistic, they usually seem to be of a certain type: ‘Cold,’ Quiet, Likes Numbers, What Are Feelings Does Not Compute Error 404. furthermore, that seems to be just about the only criteria needed to meet in order to headcanon a character as autistic. even furthermore, seeing those characters over and over as the only representation of autism is uhhhhhhh kind of boring and largely rooted in autism through the allistic eye, ie negatively. this Autistic Character Mould people are putting ocs and canons alike into needs to be broken up and diversified. here’s how.

first of all, you, the presumably allistic writer and / or character, need to heed these four ( 4 ) factors before i continue:

while those kinds of autistic people, ie the quiet ones ones that like numbers and not people do exist, autism is called a spectrum and with good reason. more importantly, autism does not exist in a vacuum. an autistic person may have all of those traits, a few of them, or none at all.

also, those traits are not solely autistic ones. a person can like numbers and not people, have issues expressing emotions and keep to themselves and be allistic.

cold unfeeling autistic characters are usually written with very little or no insight into the neurological condition itself, which makes for a shit portrayal. this post should not be your only character building source for autism. as you should with every other foray into a subject you’re unfamiliar with, for the love of the GODS, do ya gotdamn research.

if you have a Gasping Need to make your Cold Unfeeling Machine character autistic or conversely, make your autistic a Cold Unfeeling Machine, do it, i suppose ( sarcasm, ) but think about where your decision for making them autistic comes from and why you want to do it.

but queen morgaine, how am i going to write my autistic character then? fear not, reader, here is a list of lesser-recognised autistic things you can and are encouraged to apply to your autistic character to make for a more realistic, nuanced, and overall more human and less robotic portrayal. 

allistics are allowed and encouraged to reblog.